Should I dump my fiancee because his family is psycho?

Honestly? With the possible exception of your fiance, I think everyone involved in this mess is being ridiculous. Your daughter's behavior could have been construed as inappropriate (you might know she's a perfect angel, but someone just watching the incident could have gotten the wrong idea), and at 19, she should be perfectly capable of handling the situation by herself. Of course, that doesn't justify the other women's response to your question, but their overreaction just emphasizes how trivial this whole fight is, and it shouldn't be going on six weeks later. Tell them that since their point's been made (whether or not you agree) and it won't happen again (if only so that you don't have to go through this hassle), you'd really like to just put the whole thing behind you and move on. At that point, it's on them to be gracious and agree.

I think you are also part of the problem.

His family isn't perfect, but remember this love may come and go from his life, but they will always be his family, you may not always be a part of his life.

Yes, your daughters behavior was inappropriate, and she should have apologized herself after she realized it offended someone. Having someones leg draped across your lap is fine in your own home, but not for others.

You are very quick to point out all of their faults, but see none of your own, look in your own back yard.

Also, a fiancee is a female, fiance is a male.

First of all, if you're in med tuition, you will have to be in a position to spell and write. You are pronouncing his household is basing their judgement on you in view that you met him on a cruise? That is the rationale they disrespect you and make contact with you a whore? You say he would possibly not protect you to his household. He has not anything to his identify? Which I am assuming is a condominium, automobile, profession? If the entire above is fact, why do you desire him? Something isn't proper right here, or you're now not telling the reality.

I think you will create difficulties for your fiancee that will make your marriage unhappy. None of you seem to have any sense of grace and decorum. Why would you daughter have been free to bring along her boyfriend anyway? This was a family dinner. That kind of implies, well, family only. Why would you bring an uninvited guest? Secondly, the boyfriend obviously hasn't any idea how to behave in a stranger's home. Draping his leg over your daughter? Give me a break. Your daughter should have told the idiot to sit up straight and make conversation with everyone. Feeling the need to come to the defense of an adult daughter who has allowed herself to be treated with her boyfriend's disrespect, was unnecessary. She might have learned a valuable lesson. You don't like your finacee's family. So be it. Out of regard for him, whom you claim to be your soulmate, treat his family with regard.

If you believe your fiance is your soulmate and has appropriate boundaries with his family, then marry him.

His family does not sound "psycho" but merely "troubled" and it's rude of you to label them so pejoratively. One reason they may be troubled is the blatant favoritism their parents openly showed to one child over the others.

<<The older sister and the younger brother's wife say to my 19 yr old daughter and her date, who had his scrawny leg draped across her lap, 'Do you think you could behave more appropriately in front of the family?'>>

Good for them! If your daughter's date had his leg draped across her lap in front of family, this was an appropriate comment. When parents don't teach their children appropriate behavior and boundaries, extended family sometimes does step in. Of course this tends to upset "my child can do no wrong" types of parents.

Yeah, his family does sound pretty wacky.

Would it be possible to try and avoid his family get-togethers?

It just sounds like you really love your fiancee, and hopefully not even his crazy family can get in the way of that.

I have a wacky family but it doesn't mean I'm a sucky person. If you dump him, then you're dumb and he deserves better.