Thoughts on Groomsmaids?

I think it's totally fine to have women on the groom's side and men on the bride's side. Your wedding party should be the people you are closest to, and those people might not be the same gender as you. And that's okay :)

There is no need to have the same number of bridesmaids and groomsmen. And there is no need to ask people you weren't originally going to ask to be in the wedding party just to even up the sides of bride and groom. It appears your MOH and 2 bridesmaids have already committed to being in the wedding. So have the grooms sister be a bridesmaid. You now have 1 best man, 1 MOH, and 3 bridesmaids. Fine. I would live with that. I think it's silly to separate out "groomsmaids" from bridesmaids and even worse when they have to wear pants, suits, or tuxedos.

Your other options

1. Forgo having bridesmaids and groomsmen altogether. Reimburse all bridesmaids and groomsmen for their expenses they've paid. Or:

2. Forgo have bridesmaids and groomsmen other than the MOH and Best Man. Reimburse everyone else for their expenses.

haha...sounds like the movie "I Love You Man"..

It's your wedding...you can do whatever you want. Don't stress about it & don't worry about drama. If his sister & a mutual friend are the next best thing to groomsmen...then go with it. Otherwise, you don't even really need bridesmaids. You could keep your maid of honor & your husband could have a best man. Or you could keep one bridesmaid & have your brother be the second groomsman. You said he's "troublesome" - just don't give him any responsibilities past walking down the aisle, standing next to the Best Man during the ceremony & walking back.

In the end, it's your call. Do whatever you feel most comfortable with & will cause you the least amount of stress. The point is that you're getting married...try not to sweat the other stuff.

I think this is 100 percent a judgment call and it's all just opinion. Personally, I'd opt for the uneven bridal party. This isn't unheard of any more, and I was at a wedding last summer where it was uneven. I wouldn't even remember it except I was asked to be a fill in bridesmaid for it!

Or you could ask your bro if you want. My least favorite is dressing the girls like groomsmen. But that's just opinion.

what is the problem with having your brother a groomsmen? If it were me, I would have your bother and the best man stand beside your FH. Then have your bridesmaids and MOH walk down the aisle themselves. I think it look better uneven, then girls with two different dresses on.

You don't have to be the same gender as someone to be their attendant in their wedding.

My MOH is a guy and he is wearing the same suit the groomsmen will. So he is not out of place, each person whomever they are paired with is who they will stand next to during the ceremony.

I see nothing wrong with that! My very best friend in the whole world happens to be a guy. I had no shame in asking him to be a "bridesmaid" and he was excited to fill in.

More and more weddings are becoming more modern and less with stuffy traditions.

If this is something you are both ok with then Go for it!

All that matters is that you are surrounded with people you love who love you and are happy to share your special day with you!

at the end of the day youll be married to the man you love and your pictures will show your happiness, not worry or anxiety or anything else.

good luck hun!

Groomsmaids (and Bridesmen) are growing more acceptable since many people have opposite sex friends they want to honor at their weddings. I think its fine and the dress idea sounds good. It was nice of those women to step forward and help out. No drama is the best way to go. Good luck with your wedding; I hope the rest works out the way you planned!

have the groom find another friend or try to get his friend to be the groomsmen and not his sister.

Go with your first instinct and your heart. Best to do what won't cause drama on your wedding day.