My husband doesn't spend time with me but gets jealous if I spend time with friends?

If he isn't listening to you or valuing you and leaves you feeling lonely - you must seek help. Because you are only going to resent him longer the longer this goes on. You can either go with him, or seek counseling. My guess is he won't go because he knows you're right. And the counselor would most definitely side with you. A husband should put his wife first, always. End of story. If he doesn't put you first and value you, then you have to decide how long you are going to accept this. You teach people how to treat you.

Tell him you cannot continue your marriage this way and that changes are needed for it to continue. If he ignores you then bluntly tell him you`ll divorce him if he doesnt change.

Then again, he doesnt seem motivated to change, and how many people, even at 36, are capable of the BIG changes he needs to make. If you leave him, he may relent and change his ways, but this may just be temporary and your relationship will slide again. You and your children deserve better.

If you could go back in time, would you still choose this guy to be your husband? If the answer is "no" then you should split from him.

My father came home from work and ignored everyone else, and even at the age of 7, I knew I was happier when he wasnt there, so ending your relationship MAY be beneficial to your children

His relationship with his mom doesnt sound healthy - like you say, they are co-dependent and he has issues.

As you know, the fact that he refuses counselling is not a good sign for a future with him

I say walk. This isn't a marriage! Another thing. I think you are too close at hand to see it, but he has another woman. I think his mother is his cover. That jealous streak? He is the one hiding something, watch. When you go out, tell him you are not leaving the phone on and no one is going to put you on a time limit.

If possible, try to follow & see where he really goes from a distance. Follow to the right. He will be looking left, so won't see you.

I would not end the marriage, there could be worst, but I don't think he is being fair. It sounds like he takes after his mother. My man is 37 and we have just been going out and I feel like he would put his parents before me, so I am glad you wrote this, cause now I know how we could end up or the possiblity that he would not get married, but at least his mother does not call so much and he is not as possesive. You should just go out with your friends and tell him that it is not his business and you are a grown woman.

You husband needs to be slapped back into the real world. Pack up the kids and leave him for weekend without telling him. Make it a complete surprise. Shut off your cell phone and go on a hotel getaway with the kids. Let him feel what it is like to be abandoned. Maybe then you can talk him into going to counseling.

Good luck.

Sounds like a typical man that doesn't want to play with his toys anymore but gets upset if others plays with them. I doubt if he is going to change so I say clean out the bank account and file for divorce. good luck

That's definatly not right.. I would not stand for that at all... Maybe he's jealous that you get to go out and he has to deal with 'momma'. ---LOL But even still that is his problem!!

I'm sure as time goes on, he could get worse. Why does he see his mom everyday??? WOW!!

give him what he is giving you let him be pissed off.if it gets to bad leave his ***