bachelor party $$ etiquette?

Every bachelorette party I have been to consisted of each person paying for themselves, plus a little extra to cover the cost of the bride. All of the bachelor parties I've heard of worked the same way. At the very least the groomsmen should split the cost between them.

Figure out the cost of each event and send out an email - "We're doing X, Y, and Z. X will cost a; Y will cost B; Z will cost C. Let me know which event or events you are interested in and I will book it."

Bachelor Party Etiquette

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bachelor party $$ etiquette?

Putting together my friend's bachelor party, and it's looking mildly expensive- a couple of grand for the whole event. Baseball game at noon, indoor skydiving after, then a very reputable steakhouse, followed by the usual nudie bar shenanigans- with the dozen people, alcohol and 100 miles...

Tell the rest of the party that both the groom and bride have requested there be no strippers. Having them anyway could lead to trouble between the couple...just before their wedding. A wedding is a once in a lifetime event for a couple and a true friend would not want to do anything to ruin it. Stand your ground. These so called friends can go to the strip club some other time.

You will resent them if they don't pay at all. I have never heard of the host having to pay for the entire thing. If you asked a couple friends to go to a baseball game, you would all pay for your own ticket unless you won them or something. They should have to pay for their part. You can pay a little more to cover the groom. Let them all know what this stuff costs. If someone complains maybe you can cut something out like indoor skydiving or choose a cheaper restaurant or something.

Does your crew have a history of doing something this extravagant? This all sounds a little much to me. Whatever happened to just dinner and a strip club? Or just a tasteful baseball game and some beers?

Bottom line - if you don't want to go broke entertaining a bunch of dudes for a day, ask the other groomsman what they want to do, and everyone pays for themselves, and pitches in for the groom.

Seriously, if you do all that, you will end up regretting it

Wow, sounds pretty extravagant.

I would talk to the other groomsmen and make sure they can swing it. Bottom line, its not your obligation to pay for all the other groomsmen. The only person who shouldn't have to pay is the groom. Add up the expenses per person, and see if they will be able to afford it. If so, enjoy, if not, you may need to down scale just a tad.

group tickets are wayyy better. split the cost with the other guys in the wedding party. and car pool. even though the steakhouse is reputable....that is the most expensive part. go to a cheaper place. or call the place and reserve a section as well as the menu. a lot of places understand it is expensive so they make a special menu with limited options. this makes it hecka cheaper. overall to eat go somewhere cheaper.

I would be interested in finding out more about this too

Thank you all for your answers and opinions.