My 13 year old got dropped off by his gf wasted hubby thinks it isn't a big deal...?

He can do plenty of experimenting when he's 18 and off at college. There's no excuse for a 13 year old boy to 1) not be where he told you he as going to be, 2) come home three hours after his curfew, and 3) be drunk. And yes, it's serious. The younger a kid starts drinking the more it can affect his brain development.

The age difference is ridiculous, too. His girlfriend will legally become an adult in a few months. She has no business messing around with a 13 year old boy. Next year she will be 18 and your son will be only be 14.

What would your husband say or do if it was his 13 year old daughter out with a 17 year old boy who brought her home drunk?

You need to talk with your husband and make sure you're both on the same page. Then step up to the plate and do your jobs as parents.

Well, I think you should avoid blaming the girl until you talk to him sober.

I DO think its a big deal, but I also do know that most kids experiment at some point. It could have been a party that got out of hand, it could have started with getting an accidentally spked drink... I mean, there are a LOT of scenarios that could have led to this, so just dont pass judgement until you talk to him about what happened.

Your hubby probably thinks its not a big deal because a lot of teens DO experiment. MOST teens today have been drunk at least once by 13 or 14. Im an adult now, and had my first drink when I was 13. Now, I dont think its ok, but I know it does happen. So its not something that I am going to go to a crazy extreme on.

I would ground him for a couple weeks, make him write a paper on bac on how quickly you can die from alcohol poisoning, and then tell him about all the stuff he needs to do to be safe if he drinks again. Make it clear you dont condone any such decision, but would rather he knows how much alcohol is too much than die from alcohol over dose, or call a ride than dui-ing yourself.

What kind of parents are you to ALLOW a 13 year old to have a 17 year old girlfriend? Then when he comes home "wasted" your stupid husband doesn't think it's a big deal??? Um HELLO, underaged drinking is ILLEGAL!!! And your dumb husband thinks it's perfectly okay for a 13 year old to "experiment"? Fathers like that scare me and have no business having or raising kids because they do it so irresponsibly.

So you've been THINKING about telling your son to break it off??? WHO'S IN CHARGE THERE? You or the 13 year old? Somebody has to be the rational parent and it's not your husband. Put your foot down and stop this premature dating and underaged drinking before you end up raising a raging drunk with emotional problems and once you do that, you can't unring that bell. BE RESPONSIBLE PARENTS for the sake of your kid for God's sake. He doesn't know any better, but YOU TWO should!

Well, you informed them to be dwelling at special time they usually were not, so there demands to be penalties which were pre-mentioned whilst curfew is overlooked and your laws are not revered. The identical is going for the ingesting. If you may have had a dialogue approximately ingesting, breaking curfew and or the repercussions of such movements, then it's certainly over due. Don't make wild threats and ALWAYS comply with via. Your thirteen yr ancient and a 17 yr ancient lady is difficult regardless of the way you appear at it. Don't allow your hubby considering it's "cool" sway you, letting your son do dull $%#@ shall be "cool" till the dull catches up and he will get an STD, a woman prego, harm of killed.

Youve done what my mum did. Waited for a bad relationship to 'fall off' so you dont have to be the bad guy.

My 12 year old sister has a now 18 year old boyfriend, Im 18 and her boyfriend is older than my boyfriend.

She tried the 'let it fall off by its self method' Which since he lives in scotland and were in london, she thought would be soon. But no a year and a half later (and alot of unprotected sex later) they are sitll together and my mother looks like a tool.

anyway..

you let your son hang out with 17 year olds, hes going to do what they do, drink. He doesnt have alcohol poisoning.

Don't over react. You're husband is right, kids DO do this. However, you're the parent and it's your job to calmly punish him. Grounded from doing anything after school for 3-4 weeks? This would keep him away from his girlfriend and all friends and fun and hopefully teach him to be more careful or not do this. It's not his girlfriend doing this - he's a big boy. He needs to learn how to be around 'bad influences' and make the right choices himself. He wont have you around him forever making him break up with 'bad girlfriends'. This is a great opportunity for you to talk calmly with him about good choices about drinking, drugs and probably also about sex if you have not already. Don't let the girlfriend take the wrap. I'd call and apologize to her too. It's not your place to yell at her. If you forbid them from seeing each other, you're right, he'll just run to her more. I'm thinking hubby thinks it's not a big deal in the sense that it does not surprise him - it's normal and typical. Doesn't mean it's not 'wrong' and that you as parents don't need to have a proper punishment. Good luck. Stay strong and stay cool. Talk heart to heart with your husband about his feelings on this.

HOWEVER....your son is a little bit young for this and it seems that he didn't take the responsibility of going to the beach alone very seriously. I'd also take away that 'dating' responsibility until he's 16. His OLDER girlfriend can come over any time she wants to and you'd love to get to know her better. Involve her in family activities, etc. He's WAY too young for her. How on earth is a senior in high school interested in an 8th grader?? Do I have the grades right, close at least? Don't worry. This relationship wont last long. Just keep a close eye on him and allow him to do age appropriate things - going on a 'date' with an older girl in her car was probably not the best choice. He also broke 'curfew'. Big 'grounding' and an adjustment in what is 'ok' and 'allowed' is absolutely in order. Next time let him know he's absolutely allowed to go to the beach, but you'll be driving and dropping him off and you'll also be hanging out nearby and driving him home. Just stay level headed about this. THese are natural consequences. You cannot let him do these things again until he's older because you just cannot put that kind of stress on yourself wondering if he'll come home wasted again.

Sorry so wordy - just thinking this through as a mom. I have two young boys that are not at this point yet, but I'm ready for it once they do this. :)

Play your cards right and he'll be breaking up with her (or vice versa) in a matter of weeks.

Your husband would probably have a big problem if it was his 13 year old daughter with a 17 year old boyfriend.

Can you go to a child psychologist or something? I don't know how to handle breaking them up without just making him rebel worse, but in my opinion it needs to happen.

Hm, how long until her 18th birthday? I think it becomes a felony at that point.. heh

You need to make sure that your son does not see that girl again. it is not good for him to be drunk at 13. and why is he dating a 17 year old? how did they even meet. but make sure that they never go out on dates or anythig like that anymroe

well i say good job on hooking up with the 17 year girl, but he should be ok unless this is his first time drinking you know how all teens lie about those things he should be ok, if he drunk to much he might get a little poisoned but its nothing that a hospital cant fix. so he theres nothing to worry about

Firstly, a 17 year old girl dating a 13 year old boy is creepy!

What you need to do is ground your son and forbid him from seeing her again, and speak to her parents.

This is completely unacceptable, and if you let it slide, things could get worse. What if she gets him doing drugs next? What if they are having sex and he gets her pregnant?

PUT A STOP TO THIS RIGHT NOW! FOR YOUR SONS SAKE!