With 2 kids with my wife, 1 daughter with my ex and a currently pregnant girlfriend, what's a man to do?

First of all I think you should write a romance novel, and second of all I think that this is an extremely complicated situation that you REALLY need to think out thoroughly before you decide. I"m going to tell you my exact thoughts based off of what you have told me.

1. You should break it off with your wife.

Reason: If she has someone else as well it means that she is willing to move on. I know you're worried about your kids but trust me, it would be better for you two to separate than to stay together. Your two children by Jenny would be better off growing up by split parents than ones that hold grudges against each other (and believe me, no matter how much you think everything would be all fine and dandy, there will always be that fight, always be that tension when you request to see your other children or to buy them something). Let her go, tell the kids that it's not their fault, and leave.

2. Tell Stephanie that you're seeing Rachel

Reason: She will find out about it sooner or later and it's better to come from you than your ex or someone else. Also her reaction is key. If she still cares about you and is willing to forgive what you are doing, then go with it. Rachel to me, is just a "what if" situation. You want to be with her so much because of the fact that you want to know what would have happened if you stayed with her during college. The problem is, you are two different people now. What happened to her later in life was not at all your fault. You don't know if she changed at all just by spending that small amount of time with her. Let go of the fantasy of your old college fling. First love is not necessarily the last.

3.Make Stephanie know you care about her and that you want her to be apart of your life

How: Take her out with your other kids and let them spend time with each other and let her know you want her apart of your other kids lives. Support her and your baby with her by just doing the simple things, such as going to her prenatal appointments. This is not a good time to stress her out, remember that. Do simple little things to show her you care, open the door for her, give her a rose, call her from work. Just be sweet and only ever think about her. If she suspects you with anyone else, nicely invite her to look through your phone or your facebook to put her mind at ease.

I think you should choose Stephanie, and I hope it's not just a lust thing.

You need a lawyer! Right now! Before the paternity hearing! If your ex has a rap sheet and a current life style like you describe, you'll have plenty of ammunition for your side of the story, but you'll need an expert to present it. There might have to be a medical paternity test, which takes a while, so that may delay the decision. If by some chance the court decides that he is the father, and that you must allow him to see the child, you may be able to insist that it be visits only, under supervision. If he doesn't keep up with child support payments, the lawyer can get the whole situation reconsidered.

The time to grow up was approx. 11 years ago when your first child was born. You made a commitment and you brought a child (and then another) into this world who want and expect and deserve two parents. It would be different if there were something irreparable happen in your marriage to make you separate but it was in fact your serial infidelity that caused it.

Once you married and brought 2 other people into the relationship (your kids, not your girlfriends) you ceased to be the dating Cassanova that you once fancied yourself. It's time to take a hard look at yourself and who you've become and see if it is something you and your children can be truly proud of.

Grow up, go home, and prepare for some hefty child support payments.

Although I'm appalled and disgusted with your life, I would honestly like to try to answer you without condemnation. I want you to realize something about yourself. You will never be happy with one woman - that is how you are. You could choose any one of these women and believe yourself to have made the wrong decision in the future when one of life's curveballs comes into play. You have a void in your life that you are trying to fill with relationships. I'm not saying you won't find some happiness with one of them but it will never completely make you happy. Although this will sound crazy, the only way to fill that void in your life is with God. He is the absolute only thing that makes sense in this world of uncertainty and craziness. You might think no way, but I ask you to try it before your life becomes even more of a mess. After that, since Jenny is willing to get back with you and you still love her, I would recommend staying with her. She's the one you made vows to and she's the one that you should spend the rest of your life with. Of course, I would try to be in the lives of your other two children that you helped make but to make a true commitment to your wife, Jenny, to not ever be with the other two women ever again. Plus, I think you owe it to your children to be a good example to them as a father should be so they have an excellent chance of growing up to be the best adults they can be and that they can be true and committed to their future spouses as well.

I sure hope you have a very good job.. cause I know that Child support is going to hurt something fierce.. Best to stay with Steph. Jenny will never fully recover from what you did to her. She might say she will, but if my husband left and then proceeded to get 2 different women pregnant then I could never trust him ever again. As for Rachel, your not in love with her, You just pity her and like getting sex from her every now and again. So it's best to stay with Steph and get your balls snipped.

i think you need to break it off with all of them, so do the girls, because you have NO idea what you want, and who you want. 13 years is not mature, no matter what you think. just because she can spread her legs doesn't make her mature. i honestly don't think any of you are mature enough to have a relationship. i don't feel sorry for any of you, save for the kids that you're having and what they're going through. what would i do? i'd have kept it in my pants to begin with, and wouldn't have gotten married unless i was sure. your wife didn't rob her of anything, you made the choice. and to use that as an excuse is immature. if you didn't want to make the choice you shouldn't have cheated on her to begin with. it shouldn't be a hard decision if you know who you love, but with you being so fickle, you more than likely don't even know you're own name half the time. the other girl made her choice who to marry. she happened to marry a jerk. stuff happens. personally i think you all need to break it off, grow up, and stop being so selfish. pay your child support, but stop making new ones.

You should have stayed with your wife Jenny and not messed around with anyone else in the first place. Now you've made this mess. Why don't you let the women get together and decide what you should do

OMG! Is this a scene from Days of Our Lives or something? If not, you've got to be kidding me. You may, quite possibly, be the DUMBEST person alive. Not to mention completely full of yourself. I say, dump all 3 women, abandon you kids, and go eff yourself. You are all that you truly care about anyway. Why put anyone else through all the misery that is YOU! Booooo!!!

Wow

i got 99 problems but a ***** ain't one.

Also, for all you racists out there, if you're assuming that I'm a black man, you're right.