Who leads you? Who is or who are your true leaders? Why do we allow ourselves to be "lead" by others anyway?

In my view. We all lead ourselves. We make our own choices. To choose to blindly follow another's instructions is still such a choice.

I think the best way to look at it is that we all have a dual nature. We are both students and teachers.

As such we can listen and pay attention. We can offer our opinions. But we each make our own minds up. Potentially the best teacher, the best student, the best follower and the best leader are all aspects of our own integrated selves.

But we live within a society that has rules which are implicitly agreed by the society we live in. We have to weigh up whether explicit rejection of the rules is purposeful and necessary or counter-productive. Our true autonomy is an internal autonomy. We are always free to think, believe, perceive whatever we like. But we have to make some allowances in relation to external constraints, which represent the cultural and societal frame of reference within which we operate. Our role in relation to this is to play a positive, contributory role, in the gradual transformation of society in a way that we perceive to be holistically and consistently good for the self and the whole.

Bosses, supervisors, etc. Noone is "superior". They are just roles with scopes of responsibility attached.

We do lead ourselves. We can always say no. If the behaviour of any person in any role isn't acceptable we can always walk away. We just have to weigh up the potential consequences of our possible courses of action and make a suitable choice. But it's entirely at our own discretion.

Sometimes rules, red-tape etc. are arbitrary and counter-productive. But they can always be changed over time. The trick is to identify what's really important and synthesise common goals. Things can then be reassessed and appropriate changes made. But that can't be achieved unilaterally. It's a collective process.

We have historically repeatedly broken away from unhealthy insanity-laced bondage situations, slavery, women's rights, apartheid being obvious examples. There are few really extreme examples left in our society. But this evolutionary process happens on a smaller scale every day, with some set backs, but the overall trend is in the right direction.

Accepting a perception of not being able to lead ourselves is unnecessary self-inflicted self-disempowerment.

You would most likely not be here without leadership. Whether that meant being wiped out by other tribes in primitive times, or in the business world today. Just look at any society. Even a prison. The strongest gangs are the south American gangs, that all take orders from above. That's the secret of their strength. - respect and obedience for the person directly above them. They function better, than the whites and the blacks, and control the drugs and power in prisons. Humans might not even exist, had they not had this hierarchy in place throughout our history. Its OK to say you don't like being lead by someone, when that same person will protect you regardless. The Government will pay your food and shelter if you refuse to work. They will protect you from criminals, or even invasion as we saw in the Falklands. By paying our taxes, obeying societies rules, we get a small slice of the pie and protection.

Actually if you are smart enough you can climb the ladder, get the banana and have the other monkeys thanking you for it. I'm still working on the thanking me part. Currently I climb the ladder just by being in the monkeys presence. The monkeys seem to sense impending doom and are belligerent, though as usual very cowardly. They aren't fighting the water but everything that the water represents. It's morphed into a giant black ball of desperation at what they have forfeited and can sense but they just can't seem to navigate the bridge.They fall apart at your feet when you won't compromise yourself. Sometimes you just have to find monkeys that get some good monkey love often enough to not throw so much poop.

Good question.

I may say Jesus is my leader, afterall everything He did or said makes sense to me.

We're blind. Our paradise, wanting or not is here (we do not have anywhere else to go nor living nor after death) and we shall be gentle and kind to others since we all are about the same and we all do have the same rights.

Obama is someone I admire but since I'm brazilian he's not my leader.

Neither John Lennon or Ayrton Senna (people I also admired).

My father could be my leader, but since we disagree a lot about values on life, he isn't.

My mother is the sweeter person to me I ever met, but she does not lead my way. I choose it spontaneously.

My son does not even talk to me. We disagree a lot.

My daughter is very reliable and excelent on doings and purposes, but she does not manage to direct my life. I wouldn't like it, anyway.

That means... my leader is myself.

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One thing I have recently give a though about is that indeed ... we have no leaders.

We believe so, because those elected by majorities leads our paths, actually, but since they don't even know about our existence, I can not say they are my leaders.

They are indeed leaders of the country... and that affects me... but they do not lead me.

That means... I lead myself.

Actually, as you said, I can not affirm that I lead myself... but nobody else does.

So... in this road, here I am, lost, trying to figure out a good way to ... escape from the jungle.

Monkey...

No... I'm not a monkey.

But ... indeed one more lost human being... doing the best I can to .... simplelly live.

Funny, ain't?

Well... Jesus is a good direction to follow.

I may say, despite of the fact that I'm a hell of a sinner, He is my leader.

- Only those I choose to lead me do so.

For example, you did not lead me to watch your video on Youtube, because I chose not to be led to it.

be strong and always lead yourself