Should it bother me that my fiance is closer to his sister than he is to me?

No it is not normal. If you are not married yet and he is already barely talking to you that is a bad sign. You might want to rethink this marriage idea. A man is supposed to cherish his wife. You need to do some reading on what a marriage relationship is about.

Yes it should.

The word you want to use is intimacy

While couples can and do frequently engage in physical intimacy they often fail to engage in the more important and long lasting emotional aspect of intimacy

Your fiance is having an emotionally intimate relationship with his sister; he likes her , he trusts her , he feels safe with her ,he feels totally comfortable spending hours sharing parts of of his life with her that he doesn't feel comfortable sharing with you.

That's a problem

Understand I'm not one of those people that believes in the currently in vogue couples behavior model that says that both partners HAVE TO KNOW every single detail of their partners life to function as a couple, But i do believe that if too many of those details are withheld from each other and /or shared with another person then there is something drastically wrong in paradise.

Your fiance is 35 years old and as such the time when he should have cut his apron strings that attach him to his {older ?] sister is long past.

Furthermore your future sister in law should have had the decency to turn her brother around and tell him to stop spending so much time with her and go to home to the most important in his life ......you.

Good luck

not normal... well, it wouldnt be okay if he was married. but you're not yet, so technically its not "wrong" yet, but I doubt he plans to just switch over to you once he gets married. I totally understand how you feel and I wouldnt blame you one bit for being bothered. I have a hard time understanding why any woman would be okay with it, to be honest. when you are married, you SHOULD be his number one woman. his other family will need to take a back seat. especially if its as bad as you say it is, I dont even think I would marry that guy. if you do, you've probably got a long road ahead of you of trying to drill into his head who is supposed to be the most important. he might learn, he might not.

my husband did eventually learn, but it wasnt fun. it was the only thing we ever even really had to fight about. (that and him being friends with his ex's).

maybe some people out there really do think your fiances behavior is normal, I dont know. I just know that I personally could not stand to stay in the situation. I remember asking a similar question on yahoo answers all that time ago, and they were very ..unsupportive. they said there was nothing wrong with my husband doing what yours was doing. I was a bit baffled, but since then I've learned that yahoo answers are basically just a reflection of the current world view, and most of them dont know any more than you do, and arent always right. its one thing to be friendly with your sister, its another thing entirely to be closer to her than you are to your spouse.

he should be telling them to you, you're right. you have every right to be bothered.

Speaking from experience, it should bother you, but that's only natural.As his fiance, you should want to be the one he tells everything and comes to for help. Just relax and talk to him, and tell him how you feel. He might understand where you're coming from. Infact talk to your sister about it to. Communication is key. You're human what your feeling is human, so it is normal. Just learn to get those feelings out, and act positively on them.

If he "won't say more than a few things" to you on some nights maybe you should reconsider?

Very normal. Don't chastise him for it. If you love him you'll want her as a friend and ally. She is his sister and men tend to confide insisters. Be glad its not another woman.

It depends on what state you live in. If you live in Alabama, than yes.

Totally abnormal. are they having relations?