How long will it take to get over this broken heart? - please don't leave stupid answers.?

Time, time and more time. Such an often-used phrase.....but so true, and it turns out to be such a good friend!

Three weeks isn't too long a time and of course you are going to be feeling grotty about the whole thing at the moment.

To be honest, sounds a bit as though he is going from girl to girl, telling them the same story - he's 'had enough of fun, and now wants to settle' etc, etc., just so that he can trick them into a sense of well-being and then have his way with them. It has to be said that there are guys who, in that way, are definitely serial abusers of good, decent, loving girls who end up hurt by them.

So - take a good look at him now, using what you have said in your write-up.

He is obviously a liar, telling you one thing and then shortly after completely changing his story.

He is a manipulator, using and abusing girls to his own advantage, and not caring in the least about their feelings or welfare.

He showed you probably more than once that he would rather spend time with his friends, both male and female, than with you - nice!

He is embarrassingly immature. At 24 he should be becoming a more responsible individual, if not for himself then for other people around him.

Is his present drunkenness an 'evening' thing, or does he have a problem with alcohol?

With the strong feelings you believe you have for him now, you may not yet see from the above conclusions what a complete loser he comes across as being - but, believe it, he does! Do your REALLY want to have anything to do with such a worthless individual?

From today, you must start believing that you are worth so much more than ever he could ever offer you, simply because you are.

And, don't give up on keeping busy. It is another tried and true healer of everything bad and sad in life. You are obviously a good and caring person and you WILL come out at the other end of this, older (a little!), wiser, and eventually happier! Good luck!

It's understandable that the wound is still raw, it was only a few weeks ago, and of course it's a lot harder being dumped than dumping somebody yourself. Getting over him fully will take time, simple as that. It's a cliche, but it's true.

To be perfectly frank it sounds like you didn't mean much to him anyway. Sorry if that sounds brutal, but that's how it looks from here. At least take away from this the knowledge that you didn't do anything wrong, and there's nothing wrong with you, you simply weren't right for him. You will, of course, be right for someone, you just have to find that person (when you're ready).

In the meantime, this is what I advise; go with the flow. Actually LET yourself be miserable as hell for a while. Really throw yourself into it; cry as much as you want, get drunk, eat all the chocolate you can get your hands on, listen to lots of miserable music, watch weepie films, everything. Do it without limits and without guilt. You are allowed to be miserable about this, it's normal, and you have nothing to prove. You don't have to get back on your feet immediately, just because he did.

This is the important bit though; set a time limit. Two weeks perhaps. Tell yourself that until then you're allowed to be as weepy and miserable as you want, but after that you have to move on. Make sure to arrange a big girls night out for your fresh-start day as well.

Basically, what I propose is burning your misery out in one intense burst, rather than dragging it out. This has worked for me, but maybe it's a guy thing, who knows.

Other than that, I have one further piece of advice; don't become a s|ut. A lot of girls I know become really promiscuous after something like this, perhaps out of loneliness or by way of some sort of revenge or something. Big mistake. Acting like a s|ut when you feel like you do will make things ten times worse.

he probably thought you wanted to settle down with him too as he admitted to u thats what he wanted then suddenly panicked- u could try telling him u dont want anything serious at the moment either and dont wanna settle down, u were just happy with the way things were going cos u got on well etc. guys panic a lot which is why he went back on his word bout not wanting fun anymore, but if he knows u dont want that either it'll take the pressure off. are his mates single? often if theyre going on the pull it makes the one in a relationship think theyre missing something which explains his nights out. btw, facebook pics always make out theyre having fun, people always pose in the pics and make out theyre having a great time, p*ssed up when theyre not really. he may not have even had attention off any girls so far so could be thinking, yeh 'maybe the grass isnt greener on the single side after all'.

why cant u have drunken fun too? once you're out and about you soon forget about them instead of stressing about it at home. get in some pics with some hot guys and post them on facebook for him to see. people always want what they cant have so he'll see u with other men and will probably come crawling back-if so, make him work for it-dont be a push over!

dont delete him off FB, it'll make u seem bitter-u can click the cross by his posts so he stops appearing in ur feed.

Its not been that long and he is "TWENTY FOUR", hardly the time to settle down with someone. I'm sorry you broke up but that's life. Move on to the next one. You know what though, you fell in love, and that is a feeling everyone should experience at least once in their lifetime. Don't belittle it. You will get over him FOR SURE, keep yourself busy, have nights out with your friends, time is the most wonderful healer and trust me you will wonder in a few months why you cried over him. Good luck to you.

The amount of time it will take for you to heal, and get over this relationship, really depends on you.....You have to take it day by day. Your heart will let you know when it is over, but these feelings may go away in a day, a week, or even a month or two...I'm so sorry for your loss. It took me Two years to be able to tell myself, and my Ex-wife that I didn't Love her no more....I wish you well, and hope things turn around for you...Call me if you need a friend..# 304-247-6431

Some guy's never grow up, and some take a longer time than others. You were only with him for two months....... and you're that freaked out? Sorry, nothing but time will take care of this.

dha best i can tell u is it is gonna be hard. and i really dont want to sound mean but if the guy wants to be a jerk off and leave u because he wants to have fun he isnt worth keeping around. you spend all ur time thinkn of him and he is not even bothering to pick up the phne and ask u how u r doin. leave him alone gurl. there is a great guy out there that wuld never do some dumb stuff like dat.

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delete him from your facebook, gtalk, number etc. get him out of your life.

distraction is the key here. he will fade away eventually.

start dating other people too.

best of luck

Well, i am in similar situation, the only thing to move on is to find someone else, this what my mum syas.