is it ok to be shallow this way?

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you aren't superficial in almost everything.

you respect everyone, don't mind befriending anyone regardless of their looks, appearance, even status (it is fine if they're not beautiful or glamorous whatsoever)
you love all harmelss animals and your pets equally, without regard on their looks. you never put price on them.
you like kids doesn't matter how they look like. you don't differentiate a good looking kid with the oppose.
you love everything, everyone for their niceness without counting looks at all.
you know that every beauty and ugly people have own self-worth that you're not entitled to hurt them
you don't look down upon people who are not good looking
you believe there are a lot of beauty behind ugliness.

just that


you matter looks in choosing a partner, besides attitude and such.


you're looking for somebody who's as good looking as you and as nice as you, as good or bad as you...just...somebody like you. you don't want somebody who's better looking than you either. if you turn ugly one day, you would want somebody who's ugly as you either. just..like you. 

if you were to reject somebody because of their looks, you still look at him or her as somebody with self worth, you refuse them kindly. you never disrespect them.

is this ok?

ohmic12 · Accepted Answer

yea as attraction is not a joice you get to choose plus i remember a doco saying that looks wise you are attracted to someone good looking cos deep down your primal urge to produce healthy offspring

Harley Quinn · Answer

"you're looking for somebody...just like you" - I know the feeling. But I handle mine by high-fiving and kissing the mirror every morning and tell myself how unbelievably awesome I am. :P

My bf is almost the complete opposite from me, and wouldn't be to some girls "physical" liking - but to me he's perfect. So it's okay to be shallow that way, but don't pass up a great guy because if you like someone, they'll become instantly more attractive.

Anonymous · Answer

You have to feel attraction to someone to go out with them. This is something you do't control and therefore arent responsible for . Provided you don't say someone is not a worthy person because you dont' find them attractive its not a problem adn neither are you shallow.

Anonymous · Answer

I think you are suffering from a guilty complex. Whoever if accusing you of judging people by their looks is obviously delusional about why you rejected them. 

When I look at people, I judge them by how respectful they are, whether they are friendly people, and whether they are not out to use me or disrespect my sense of wellbeing. if any of those are intruded by these people, I don't feel teh slightest remorse rejecting them and cutting them out of my life.

Anonymous · Answer

If I wanted someone just like me, I could just beat off in a corner?

Anonymous · Answer

Sure it is OK.

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