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dad doesnt approve of fiance?

i am 21 and my boyfriend is 25, we've been dating for 2 years now and my bf is hinting at popping the question. the problem is, my dad doesn't approve of him. my father is extremely involved in his religion (Judaism) and doesnt approve of sex before marriage. well, he found out about 7 months ago that i had been sleeping with my bf and he gave me an ultimatum.. either I continue living with my dad and never see my bf again or i move out.. well i chose to move out. although i believe the same way my father does, i am not as strict as he is. i am in love with my bf and i know he is the person i want to spend the rest of my life with but i also love my father and dont want him to be disappointed in me and perhaps have nothing to do with me. i dont know what to do... i need some advice

Update:

there isnt any rush to get married. in all honesty i would probably wait until 2013 to have a wedding. but i also feel that if you know what you want, why wait?

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  • Al
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    Your dad is good man and want what best for his baby girl? Your Father has to grown up and realize you know longer a lil girl who need to be protect from wolf of the world.and he is to religion. Don't worry about about your father dis-own you that will never happy. it is your life now and you of age to make your own decision. if you want to marry the guy go right ahead dad is not going to this own you because he love to much that is why he so over protected of your relationship. If he try something that you tell me I'll talk with him.

  • 1 decade ago

    From what I understand Judaism is very strict, and if your dad is "old school" and has already told you to move out because of your choices, then, sorry but i doubt your dad will EVER accept your fiance, in his eyes, your fiance is the one who ruined is pure daughter, and as for getting married in the synagogues, if i'm also correct if they know you are living together and having sex before marriage they normally don't allow you to, but thats in more strict areas, same with Catholics too.

    So you made your bed lie in it, you're the one who ruined your relationship with you dad, I get it, your an adult, but maybe you should act like one and sit down and have a conversation with your dad,

  • JP
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    You already made that choice by moving out. Either your dad will get over it or he wont. Or you can dump your boyfriend and find a new one your dad approves of or not. It's your life. You've got to do what's right for you. Ultimately this is what your dad wants for you anyway so if you're right about this guy your dad won't be disappointed long when he sees how this guys treating you.

  • 1 decade ago

    I agree with JP on the grounds that you have already made up on your mind and moved out. Good decision because you are an adult not 12 so in reality your Dad is just going to have to get used to your fiance. In real life he will still love you and he will miss you and when he calls you then you will know he is over it. You cant live your life based upon what your Dad feels because you are living your life now NOT your Dads.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Your father is "Way out of Line" with his views. He obviously is a

    "controlling type"....and "too Over-possessive" for His good, and

    Your good. You already know he would be "this way" with ANY

    guy you invove yourself with....Right? You ARE aware of that, aren't you??

    Also...in fairness to YOURSELF, are you sure you want to

    be married at such a "young age"???? What's the Rush??

    Careers all defined? Both have jobs? ect....

  • ?
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    You may not be able to have it both ways, you can only choose one.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    ahahaha

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