Ladies - to what extent do you go to to look good for your other half/yourself even though you're a mother?

This is something I have noticed a lot. When people have children, those kids take over their lives, even to the point where the facebook pages are no longer personal pages, but updates on the health of their children. Many mothers seem to loose their own identity and live through their kids. This may explain the no make up look and some of the criticism you get for making yourself look good. Because it means you still think you're a person not a mother. And I guess some of the very made ones are the ones fighting to keep their identity.

You are still a person when you are a mother, you are allowed to look good and you are allowed to take care of yourself. You don't have to stop being a woman because you're a mother. Good personal grooming is a habit. If you lose it when your kids are younger, its harder to get back into when they grow up, so harder to teach.

moisturiser, concealer, mascara, hair down, don't need to die it (yet) and nails short but well maintained.

You know I asked a question similiar to this not too long ago and you got some nice answers. People were being mean to me. Like how long does it take to put makeup on? And if you don't want your man to cheat. I feel that if you go out together, you should take some time in your appearance. Like makeup, doing your hair, perfume, nice clothes. But I am sorry, I just can't see this if you are cleaning house and taking care of kids. You can shower everyday and brush your teeth and hair. That;s the extent I go to. I don't have to look like a glamour queen just to do chores. For what? He don't care. He cares when he takes his woman out and shows her off, that's when it matters. Be comfy when your at home. GL

it is the element....i rather do not look in any respect like my mom. i look a lot like my dad and that i'm equipped like his mom, tall and skinny with little weensy bones (my wrists were compared to those of concentration camp victims, how advantageous!). She and that i resemble one yet another more effective at the same time as it contains our pastimes and certain quirks, like our laughs. even if, i'm in my mid-20s and performance had 3 little ones, and it hit me after the 0.33 replaced into born that being skinny replaced into no longer in simple terms going to ensue by technique of itself. i'm no longer a 16-year-previous who can eat what i love and not in any respect pay for it. I now might want to paintings at preserving a narrow ensure. I even might want to eat more effective powerful and that i need to exercising, in the different case the burden will slowly creep up. in an attempt to avert that, I shop lively and that i attempt to eat heavily. that is a conflict yet one nicely worth scuffling with. even if the considered searching like my mom would not scare me. i imagine she's beautiful. Yeah, she's overweight. yet she has tremendous pores and skin (took sturdy care of it, did not tan, etc.), a mode smile, and a head of curls that has no longer usually any silver in it even although she's nearing 60. i desire I age besides as she has. My dad positive seems to imagine she's warm, too.

dont feel bad in making yourself look nice! Its good that you still put the effort in to look good and you want to present yourself nicely. mother or not. obv you cant be looking good alllll the time but no be proud of who you are and how you look. I'd never stop taking pride in my appearance whether i'm a mother, grandmother or great grand mother!! :) x

I try to look good I don't go over board with make up only wear foundation, blush and lippy and I know what clothes look good so try to stick with them. I do it to make me feel good I don't spend long getting ready about 10 mins. I am mum to 4 but I am also ME not just mum.

it's more important to do what makes YOU feel good, and is good that you are well groomed - your man will appreciate that, but sound like you ue too much makeup, you will end up with horrible skin problems as you age

it's always best to put your best foot forward though !!

Yes i do the same as you, i am also a mum :)

But my partner does not do the same effort, when we go out he does not dress up very nice, he always look so scruffy :(

dont let yourself go, my gf puts in no effort to look good so i never compliment her ever. she looks mumsy at best. you will always look good if you try