how do you know if your husband or wife still wants to be with you and that they arent just staying because...?

It's the little and the big things. The little things he does like still showing affection, minus the sex. Bringing me home a Diet Pepsi 'cause he knows I like it. Getting up from the couch on a Saturday afternoon and saying, "Hey! Let's go for a drive." The big things: Taking my car in for an oil change, tires, and a wash without my asking. Offering to clean the house, do the dishes, etc. when I'm in bed sick with the flu. Going to my parents home for dinner when he'd rather stay at home and watch his football. Otherwise, our week is just like yours. Get up, go to work, come home, eat supper, then go to bed. But for us, there's lots of laughter in between all of this as well as hugs and kisses, and I can always expect a phone call from my husband saying, "Honey, I'm on my way home from work."

Dear Savannah, the real question might have more to do with whether or not you have a personal insecurity. Do you fear *he* might just be with you out of convenience and little more? Or is it *you* who might fear is still with him out of convenience and little more?

Either way, it takes teamwork to make a shared existence fun and exciting. Where is the slump? How will you get over the slump and enter a new time of freedom and excitment?

Asking yourself these questions might be useful for you to pinpoint the problem. Like other people here suggested, there are many things you could introduce into your life. Can the two of you travel? get a babysitter if you have kids? Remodel your house? Your garden? Get a haricut? enter a new fitness routine together? run by the beach in the early morning, or near sunset? Take up some activity together?

I know exactly what you mean...and I'm sorry you are going through this slump. It's the question on everyone's married lips.

It sounds like you've just settled into a routine. If you're not fighting or suspicious of cheating, then there's likely no problem. If you want to make your marriage stronger or more fun, why not plan some activities for you and your husband – little things to break up the routine of weekdays or to celebrate the weekend. You can dress up nice and cook a multi-course dinner one night to surprise him. You can plan a weekend trip. You can try to give him one different compliment each day for a month…or a year.

I hope this helps and I wish you two the best!

Everyday is what you decide to make it, you can hang the washing up with a smiling or a sad face, but really life is about the everyday things as it is the extraordinary, we appreciate the extraordinary because of the everyday nitty gritty things. I know my man wants to stay because he loves me and shows it is various ways, and of course because I am super hot and a great cook....lol.

YEP IT GETS LIKE THAT, THEN THE RESENTMENTS "I DO ALL THE HOUSEWORK, i WATCH THE KIDS, I COOK AND CLEAN ETC......SAME OL STUFF BUT YEAH ONCE YU HAVE THE CAR HOUSE KID IT IS EASIER TO JUST TO STAY AND WORK ON IT,

Mine is staying because she is on the deed and doesn't work....just enjoys all the benefits...without paying, without sex, without cooking, cleaning or anything else.

take the initiative to do something DIFFERENT... so it's NOT all the same over again!!