How many of you had the unfortunate experience of having a miscarriage and how were you able to handle it?

It is hard to deal with I have had one both it was twins. It was a very weird miscarriage I had twins and lost one at 6 wks yet baby number two kept growing and doing well hcg levels were rising but not doubling. They didn't do genetic testing on baby 1. I continued with the pregnancy I had a high risk doc and u/s once a week. We found out at 12 weeks that baby two a boy who we named Halo because to us he was a mircle had abnormalities on the u/s and likely had trisomy 18 or 13. We read up on it allot and decide even though he would likely only live a few hours to weeks that we wanted him. 2 wks later I miscarried that was 3 yrs ago and I still think about him every day. I think about his twin to but he had a name so it does hurt more. I really don't know if you will ever get over it. But it will get easier. And I have always believed everything happens for a reason and When we lost Halo I was so mad and could not think of one good reason for this to happen but now three yrs later I see the reason. If I was never pregnant with him I would have never read up on trisomy 13 or 18 (He had tri 18) Now I am in photography school so that I can volunteer for a place called now i lay me down to sleep. I will take pics of babies who are going to pass so that there parents have those memories. I didn't get to see Halo my doctor wouldn't allow it but they did give me his foot print and all his u/s pictures. I also saved his clothes all as proof that I had a son and loved him more than I can express. So many people have said to me it was just a miscarriage have another. They just don't get it. The minute you know you are pregnant you are attatched and love that baby and they are not replaceable. It will get easier but you will never forget that baby. Don't let anyone tell you to get over it. You do need to move on and if you want to try again just make sure all is well with you and let your doctor guide you through getting pregnant again. I am so sorry for you loss.

Im sorry for ur loss... I found out i had miscarried when i went for my 12 wk US my baby was the size of 8 wks and had no heartbeat... I cried so bad for so many days but my partner was such great support... My doc said to just take it as a false start its nobodys. Fault u cant think of what you could have would have done... 3 months later i fell pregnant again we were so careful with everything i ate or done... My son is now 2 and a half and is sooo healthy he has nevrr had any medical problems only common cold and flu... I also now have a 9 month old whos is healthy.. It feels like the pain will be like a big hole in your heart forever but i promise in time it will hurt less...

I'll give it to you from a male prospective. It's happened to us four times. It was the worst thing we've ever had to go through as a couple and it's something we'll always carry with us. We had been trying for almost six years and every time she got pregnant we'd get so excited and plan everything.

I think the worst thing you can do is blame yourself. Bodies really are so fragile and the slightest chemical imbalance can make things go wrong. We had lots of counselling, lots of tears and lots of doctors visits. You need to grieve.

Our doctors said to us that we're not in a hopeless situation because at least we were able to get pregnant. Look at it that way.

My wife is now 17 weeks pregnant so things are looking good and we're over the moon but we'll never forget the pain we felt.

Good Luck

Hugh

Sorry approximately your loss. i comprehend what you're dealing with as I had 2 miscarriages this 3 hundred and sixty 5 days (8 months aside & i grow to be 7 weeks alongside the two cases). a million. I bled for a million finished week with the two one in each and every of my miscarriages. the 1st day grow to be mild/reasonable bypass, then the 2nd-fourth day grow to be notably heavy & i grow to be in alot of soreness & the final 2 or 3 days grow to be mild back. 2. you're able to be waiting to have intercourse notably quickly, yet supply your physique time to heal. i might wait till after your next cycle. 3. you're able to have yet another cycle after your miscarriage is over. it could be previous due additionally, so do no longer difficulty to lots if it doens't come on time.

I had a miscarriage October 8th of this year. I was devistated and soooo hurt. I prayed and prayed for strength and to become pregnant again.It hurts! There is no healthy way to grieve or healthy way how to feel. I cried and cried. Some women can just pick up right away and go back to their lives. Do what feels right to you. I personally journal, write songs and talk to my husband about the pain. Did you know that the majority of women who have a miscarriage do not experience it again? It is an indicator that you can get pregnant again in the future! (My dr is great she gave me lots of great advice and facts!) Keep your head up hun,..good luck and im really sorry for your loss :(

Hi there, im sorry to hear about your lose, Im on my 9th pregnancy and only 6 weeks gone, out of those 9 i have lost 6 so my fingers are crossed all goes ok with this one, me personally i believe the only way to deal with it is by understanding why it happens there is always a good reason and normally its for the best, don't blame yourself and remember time is a great healer, also i would suggest keep going with your life as you would normally keep yourself busy.. If things get bad for you contact your doctor... Take care and good luck for future.

i had one when with my second child she was a twin they were about 7 weeks along when i went for an ultrasound and they said i miscarried the other twin my hubby cried alot and bunched himself up on a corner but i stayed strong for us. now i have the mirena ans just last month i had a miscarriage too it hurts but i just ry not to think about it since i am a very emotional person i don't want my other baby's looking at me crying.

We were 'lucky' in way as we 'only' lost one of twins at 9 weeks

I was just grateful that we had a healthy baby, but what made it worse was the midwife denying the twin had ever existed.

The hospital said we had lost a twin when I was admitted, but the midwife refused to acknowledge it in any way.

5 years on, the anger still supersedes the pain.

its hard hun i understand iv had 3 miscarriages this year each time give yourslef plenty of time to grieve cry if you want iv found just letting a balloon into heaven makes things a little easier

its been hard bring it up with midwifes as this is my 6th pregnancy but i only have 1 child fingers crossed this one still keeps growing and you to will one day have those precious memories to make your own