why do people condemn good guys when we need more of them?

Hey Lilyta,

I'm very pleased to see a question like this coming from a lady. Not saying I am necessarily a "good guy," because I simply don't want to assume anything about myself or appear full of it, but I have noticed this perception about guys in general.

But, I think individuals - specifically guys, who do not do some or most of what you listed, can be broken down into categories. It seems that many people assume something about confidence, motivation, or personality when they see elements about *lifestyle* (i.e. not drinking, not partying, abstinence, gentleman, doing housework).

I would argue that a guy could have all of those traits, not mind doing housework, and *still* be very manly in terms of personality, spirituality, and treatment towards others. In fact, a real gal would recognize a real guy as having most of these traits. True opposites don't always attract, unless it's for some shallow reason - but that's my 2 cents.

Take care

It's not that good guys are condemned. It's that "bad" guys are NOT condemned. If a man slept around with a few hundred women and indulged in some illegal substances (like little lady cocaine), it is not a big deal to most women. If they find him attractive, they would forgive his past (s long as he is faithful and clean of dug use from then on). This doesn't really give men an incentive to be good, it gives them an incentive to be good when the right girl comes along.

Who? Where? What?

I think you're mistaken somewhat.... if a guy is all THIS and good-looking to boot, I would CHASE him. And so would many other girls.

But the problem is many guys who are good-looking and rich don't do those stuff that you list OR are taken since they abstain before marriage and don't fool around.

Women pass over good guys all the time, then they b*tch about the jerks they date.

I wish I knew. I suppose part of it is that people no longer needing marriage and traditional groundings; they don't need to court ladies and ladies don't need to attract well mannered young men.

its a phase. they all want bad boys until they finally get a taste of them then they realise its all about the good ones :)

"don't go outdoor unless for life necessity" or "abstain for marriage"

how does this make you good?

wrong examples

I used to be good, now Im a jerk, and its AWESOME!!!!