My BF of 4 yrs just doesn't get it...Should I move on?

You need counseling.

You need to sit down with someone who can ask you questions.

What do you think your prospects are? You were attracted to this guy for some reason four years ago --- you might very well go out and find someone else just like him.

If you don't want to take care of his kids, then why are you still involved?

What I would do is not something you want to hear, but I'm going to tell you anyway:

I would stop dating until my kid was at least high school age, and in the meantime I would focus on being a better mom. The L A S T thing that your kid needs (after this break up, which is my next item) is for you to start dating again, and then getting attached to another guy that you'll probably just break up with again ... and so it goes. You are a MOM before anything else, and your kid should be your first and only priority - which is clearly not the case right now.

This guy is not ready to be a husband. Everyone who reads this post knows it, and it's time that you woke up and realized it, too. Men who 'love you to death' don't pull the stupid, crappy things that your guy does. They don't propose in the middle of a huge fight, and they don't keep their woman waiting for 2 years with one excuse after another. HE knows that he's not ready, but he keeps telling you these excuses because he knows that you'll stick around and that while you're waiting, you'll still be giving him your vagina on a regular basis.

What's a little ironic is that your tag line says that your guy doesn't get it ... when actually you're the one who doesn't get it.

HE ISN'T READY !!!

GET IT NOW !?!?!???!?!?!

YES, you should pack your stuff and go. No arguments. No discussion. This is NOT his fault - it's YOUR fault because you stayed in this situation when he's been giving you no concrete reasons to stay (ring on finger, date on calendar, etc.), and behaving like a teenager.

Be a mom to your kid.

if you just pack up and leave you will break his heart

you just have to tell him and yeah he may want to propose to you but he wont til hes confident i mean you told him no the first time you might as well have kicked him in the balls and 4 years is a long time to be with anyone and as far as the car goes it doesn't matter if its a piece of **** if you can call it yours than that should be good enough

and not wanting to take care of 4 kids just because 2 of them are his not both of yours is selfish

you're both in the relationship together

No one knows how old you are. Is your child mixed? Is the BF of your race and faith. The same age group. Good job or blue collar. What about you. Are you in early to mid 20s are you hot or not are you beautiful or ok or not. Is he Greek god ok or not. Can you support you and child. For a serious answer we need at least this info. Otherwise it's just a 50/50 guess.

He knows what you want and isn't able to give it to you. Don't waste anymore time on this guy. You don't agree with the child issue and that is huge. If that's a problem now, think of how it's going to be in 5 years. Find someone who has the same goals as you. Good luck.

Move on darling. I met my wife when she was in her mid to late teens. After dating her for a year I proposed to her, bought her a one carat diamond right and married her after we graduated college. I I knew she was Mrs. Right when she was 16. She was too sweet not to love and adore. Some men want to play the field but the smart ones hold on to a girl when true love is in the picture. We have been together over twenty years and married 15.

First money isn't happiness. Having a nice should be the least of your worries, if you feel that you arn't happy with him, and he isn't willing to co-operate with anything. Then put your foot down and say hey if you don't wanna help out then bye see you later, I am sure that you can do good with your kids and without him.

Well LuxuryMistress i think you should get out of this relationship asap.

before he pins you down with a baby or something.

based on your indepth paragraph i can honestly say hes is not getting it. he must be the problem the sole reason why you arent happy. im almost certain that eliminating him from your life will solve your problems and make you happy.

Yes, it's time to move on. It's not going to get any better with him. It sounds like he doesn't love you as much as you say or he would try a little harder to make things right. That's my story and I'm sticking to it!

He's going to stay stuck in his ways and not do anything different move on wile you can don't wast any more time just go be for you get stuck and don't have any other choice go go go get out and don't look back hello don't look back!