Sex may have ruined things with a fantastic girl. What do I do now?

First let me say I commend u for not taking having sex lightly because honestly at your age most young people are not thinkin' on the same level as u.It appears to me that although u enjoyed each others company this young woman is not on the same maturity level as yourself it would be in your best interest to decide if you can merely accept this relationship for what it was and find a woman w/whom u can enjoy the moments in life w/out the need for physical release when u both are confidant and secure in yourselves then it will be right.I truly believe that your uncertainness about getting sexually involved was not w/out warrant so my advice would be to next time follow initial instincts and not have sex unless the immediate answer is yes I want you.If she has said herself she is prone to such flightiness then it honestly is not in your interest to try to hold out for this girl because it would appear that such behavior could become a pattern in this relationship which would just leave u in this same uncertainty over and over again.I don't offer this advice lightly but from heartfelt experience of my own and the awareness that you will find someone in the mean time get involved w/healthy activities that are of your interest which in turn might allow u to meet a woman who has the same interests w/which u could build a real bond with. Good luck young man and I hope that you will come to an awareness that u deserve someone who can give as well as receive all that u are.

If you like her, wish her well. Leave her be and check with her every few weeks, just ask if she's happy. If she and the other guy break up again, she may be ready to resume with you.

Try to be happy, friendly with others, but don't get involved since "its complicated".

You might also tell her you'll give her a while before you see anyone else.

she wont be as fantastic as you claim she is, she wasnt even in a relationship with you yet had sex with you, which guy would turn the offer down to hve sex. How do you know that she hasnt been offering sex to that other guy she liked. Seems like she just likes your attention, avoid her as much as possiable hopefully if she likes you she will come to you the more yoou chse her the futher away she will become.. or if you do like her ask her if she wants to be friends with benefits.. or hang out with her more make her like you..

good luck

you're so young, don't be bogged down with relationships especially at your age. you need to focus on your studies (this is still college after all), and most of all, have fun. being in a relationship can really be a pain sometimes...get out there, experience things, and meet different people. if it's meant to be with this girl, you'll find each other again, if not, you won't miss out on anything.

Seriously dude, indecisive and selfish girls like that are not worth it. They only think about themselves and nothing else. You may not see it now but you're better off without her. There are plenty of girls in college, go find a better looking hottie.

Sounds like she reconnected with her old bf during the break and when she got back she did no want anything to do with.

She sounds a bit fickled and unsure of what she really wants. It would be best to let her go and find a girl who isn't so confused.

all i can say is after break see if it will work out and if it doesn't you might just have to move on

Simple answer:

Move on, girls with "phases" are like splinters...it's painful and a b*tch to take out.

Sounds to me like you were just her rebound.sorry to say:(