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Child support help.....?
I am 23 and the parent of a 2 year old little girl. Me and her father split about 8 or so months ago after about 3/4 months i started dateing again he calls me and says "so i see your dating again" i reply with a "yes" and all he says is "well be home (on whatever day it was) in the morning because your being served".
He filed for soul custody of her....the reason he had her was because i had to move back in with my parents and i felt she was better off being in her own home. I was unemployed for 1 1/2 years because we felt it would be cheaper if i stayed at home with her....so it took some time to find a job in a college town. I make $8 an hr. and get about 28 hours a week (sometimes less) im paying $340 a month in child support , my paychecks are bi-weekly and are around $170 after they take out the child support. I work 2-9:30 almost everyday and it would be physically impossible for me to work a second job because of those hours.
I dont have a car anymore and i cant support myself financially meaning i am stuck at my parents house. My plan was to move back into my parents house, get a job , save up for a car, get a place of my own and go to school so i could be financially stable for my daughter , I cant afford to even do one of those. i told him thats what i wanted to do, he was supportive of it and constantly wishes me luck with everything and yet im paying $340 a month and he knows how much i make, how does he expect me to be able to achieve any of this paying that much? I feel like i am being royally screwed. I asked for himto file for joint custody and he refused, when i asked him what full custody meant he told me that "nothing will change it will be just how it is now, except my mom will be able to take her to the doctor and enroll her in day care", he lied, . I was also never told of a court date to fight the custody.
What can i do to try and get joint custody or at least get my child support lowered so i can still help with her and survive on my own in order to better for her?
I really want to do the best for myself in order to be able to give her the best life possible and i cant do that. Im struggling from day to day and its killing me.
Its already been done. he filed and won.
I received the first set of papers. there was no mention of a court date. i asked him and he said there would be no court date. (he knows i dont understand this kind of stuff and he uses that to his advantage)
The papers were not actualy handed to me either, they handed them to my father because i was not home at the time.
he told me he filed for the lowest amount he could get but i used a child support calculator based on yearly income it stated the lowest would be around 200$.
I feel like im being cheated in a way.
I dont mind paying child support its not the issue, its just the amount that im paying seems ridiculous, especially since im still constantly buying her things ,i even told him before he decided to do this that whatever she needed to let me know and i would help.
8 Answers
- Anonymous1 decade agoFavorite Answer
If you get joint custody you still will have to pay.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Well, wait...have you already received a child support judgment then? Or are you paying $340/mo because he told you to?
Either way, YES, you can request changes to support and parenting time. You would do this at the courthouse of the same county where the judgment was issued. I'm not clear on how you could have not been notified of the court dates, but they must have proof that they served the papers to you, otherwise the proceedings wouldn't have continued.
EDIT---
I forgot to add: GET A LAWYER IMMEDIATELY. Not trying to freak you out or anything, but you would be shocked if you had any idea how corrupt the family court system is in most states. If your ex decides to get vindictive, he can make up stories about you being a drug addict or abusive, which the state or even his own lawyer can use to screw you out of joint custody forever. Living with your parents and not making very much money is already making it easy to make you look "bad". When you're at the courthouse, ask about pro bono attorneys and cheap/free legal resources. You don't have to do this alone!
- 1 decade ago
This is your LIFE. Stop getting your legal advice from your ex. Call Legal Aid in the white pages. Seek a Modification in Child Support if it's more than the proper percentage for your state. Find this by googling child support calculator and your state. Make a Motion for 50-50 custody, or a change to Joint Custody and greatly increased visitation. These things will lower your child support. You DO NOT need his permission to ask for any of these things.
- LovingBeingAMomLv 51 decade ago
Your best bet is to start turning things around, creating a better home environment for her, and start fighting back. And it sounds like he is taking advantage of the fact that you don't understand the legalease, so maybe it's time to get a lawyer to help take all the guesswork out of everything. Also, you could file through the courts to show that $200/month would create a hardship for you and would not allow you to even be able to keep a roof over your own head, let alone help pay to keep a roof over hers! :(
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- Anonymous1 decade ago
Counter for Bird Nest Custody. This is becoming common in Canada.
http://bird_nest_custody.dads-house.org/
As for child support.
http://child_support.dads-house.org/
Federal Child Support Enforcement Handbook for Non-Custodial Parents
- mayLv 45 years ago
newborn help and custody are 2 distinctive subject concerns. the two would desire to be court docket ordered. when you consider that your father replaced into court docket ordered to pay newborn help on your mom, that's what he's doing. when you consider which you mom replaced into granted custody of you by yet another court docket order, you reside along with her. in case you desire to stay which comprise your father, and your mom isn't prepared to permit you to take action, he might desire to pass back to court docket and petition that the unique ruling giving your mom custody be overturned. to be sure that that to succeed, he might would desire to instruct that dwelling which comprise your mom is conceivable on your existence and protection. So no, you asserting you do in comparison to your mom (as all babies your age do faster or later) ought to no longer make a decide overrule an latest custody order.
- 1 decade ago
You file for joint custody, unless you are a danger to her you should get it.
