Would you people prefer it, if everyone rushed to a later loveless marriage?

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With more people asking why marriage is in decline, or even how our future is growing dark as people are putting it off or leading on to different aspirations; would they finally be happy if everyone, just, gets married? 

Myself, not so much. I had a grandfather, who did 'the right thing' by marrying a girl because it was the 50s, and they didn't use protection to ward off pregnancy. It took him 4 years to realize that since their first kid was born, she took to infidelity as she soon regretted not being able to date and staying with that one guy. That's what marriage did to that generation of my family. They rushed it, they expected something great like in the movies, but then reality showed how it's not the case. 
My mom and dad, definitely rushed it. My dad never knew my mom only went with him because he was just a rebound to her, and ever since then, she resented ever marrying him and claimed that he ruined her life. However, they stuck together to raise us. Even though she took her frustration out on us. 

Hence, I never want to put any harm on someone who didn't deserve it. I especially like my freedom, and prefer to know the person and appreciate him appropriately. I never want to use marriage as an escape or an accessory. Yet somehow, people think it's what's damaging our society and culture.

Photon · Accepted Answer

I think you're confusing love with marriage. Love is what makes people happy. Marriage is merely a legally binding contract that attempts to guarantee love.

Liz O · Answer

You've just described why NOT to get married.  Your family members didn't get married for the right reasons.  It doesn't sound like there was any love involved in their marriages.  If it's to the right person marriage is a wonderful thing and a true blessing.  Good luck.

MZT · Answer

your comment makes alot of sense on one level...but marriage will always be about giving something up...become "we" not "me"...and regardless of what happened in the past the result of a more "me " centred society is far fewer marriages, because by its very nature marriage is all about compromise and not individual empowerment...but statistically children are definitely better raised in a two parent household...so I foresee that the marriage rate and birth rate will continue to slide as our society gives up communal domestic values for individual freedoms.

You Can&#39;t Handle The Truth · Answer

Divorce rates are higher because people are lazier. Everything is disposable and it is easier to just wash your hands of it.

People get divorced just as hastily as people like your parents got married.

Funny how your mother blamed your father for her decisions?

Personaly I am against marraige, but on that note a lot of divorces are made before ever trully trying to fix it.

Blue Eyed Christian · Answer

No. But I think that if a couple are in love, are shacking up, and have kids together, and say they are committed, then they should just get married already. If they're committed, what's to be afraid of?

? · Answer

Your experience tells you that marriage doesn't work.  My family has NEVER had a divorce in it.

Anonymous · Answer

Lets be honest. People get married for the sex not the love.

Anonymous · Answer

I would probably hate that... I must be different...

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Would you people prefer it, if everyone rushed to a later loveless marriage?

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