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border line personalty disorder and childhood sexual abuse?

i was diagnosed with bpd and also was sexualy abused as a child the problem. the problem is i cant stop reliving sexual abuse and feeling suicdel daily. i feel like these feeling will never go unless i am dead, i use to think when he dies i will have peace but it will never heal from this hurt. is this bpd and is there hope? i am gay but men just get me sick i am 29 and cant be sexually with men or women. i am so confused help?

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  • 1 decade ago
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    I know exactly how this feels, being a Borderline sufferer myself. It is said that a good majority of people diagnosed with BPD have been sexually abused in the past. They also say that it can cause confusion about your sexuality. I won't agree or disagree with this, considering I'm gay myself. I like thinking that I like women because I just do, instead of thinking that I like them because of something that happened to me as a child. I will say that after you allow yourself to heal from your trauma, men won't gross you out quite as much anymore. Some girls are always hesitant about men but it does get better. I used to not even allow myself to trust in men just with friendship, but I've improved on that and I'm sure you can too. I'm not going to tell you that you'll ever feel comfortable with men sexually, though. I can't know that for sure. As far as not being able to be with women either, that's really a tough thing to go through. My best advice for you overall is to get yourself a therapist. You don't necessarily need medication, but I think talking and healing would do you a lot of good. It won't come overnight, though. Expect to be in this for a while and know that it won't be an easy road. It is the best road to go down, though.

    Source(s): 7 years of therapy and going through the same situation.
  • 1 decade ago

    hey! your going to be ok! please do not think your only option is death! you are placed here in this world for a great purpose!! you will be used to reach soo many people going through the same thing your going through, but all you have to do is ask Jesus to come into your heart and he will fill the void and pain into something beautiful. for the abuse, unfortunatly we live in a fallen world. but you do not have to stay defeated! Jesus is such an awsome loving, forgiving gracious God. ask him you come into your life, and take things one step at a time. keep your eyes on Him and dont worry about relationships. what better time to have Jesus in you life then we you need him most. you are going to be awsome!! your going to reach hundreds and more through the love of Jesus Christ with your experience. but all you got to do is ask Jesus to come into your heart. and as long as your still here its never too late! just talk to him. your going to be fine. try talking to a pastor and dont worry about being judged, we are all the same in Gods eyes, he loves is all the same no matter what. crazy huh? haha but thats how awsome our God is, we cant even comprehend it all of the time. i'll keep you in my prayers and you ask God to come into your heart! God bless

  • 1 decade ago

    I think you should seek some form of therapy.

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