Should I call or write my mom back? Please read details?

humans are not perfect - some even less so than others.

your mother screwed up big time. she knows that. you know that.

can you forgive her? you don't have to like what she did, just accept she was a very weak and sick person. it would be the corrrect thing to do. living with hate is not healthy hun.

she is reaching out to you. its not that difficult to accept that hand...

I would go and see her.

People make mistakes and have regrets all of the time. Often people die suddenly and never get a second chance to be heard or to apologize. And in your case == to try and understand why your mother seemingly abandoned you. If you see her you can ask her the burning questions you have and she can get the chance to let you know what really happened back then.

It is not usual that one knows they are dying and have one last chance to clear the air. Do you realize how many people wish they had the chance you now have to see and talk to your mother and get some answers??

I would go and see her with your brother, without a question or a doubt. Because you will never get this chance again and probably regret not going for he rest of your life. I would make plans really soon. Without a question or a doubt. This is one chance in a lifetime.

Just remember that she will always be your mother no matter what.You don't know what people think when they are on drugs,you need to forgive your mother and now that she is dying and does want to see you I would make amends since she is dying.

call her..she is your mother, and it's ok to love your mother even if you didn't like what she did to you..and she hasn't been right for along time, and she pretty much explained that to you..if she doesn't have much of a life left here, you could give her some of your time, so you don't feel bad about that should something happen..

I heard something like this a couple of days ago that might help: "Do not do unto others as you wish them to not do unto you." Remember, there will come a time when you can't take back a wrong choice. Which will it be?

back then she did what she thought was best for you and your brother. she couldn't give you what you need and now that she has gotten her life together maybe you should get in touch with her again.