Yahoo Answers is shutting down on May 4th, 2021 (Eastern Time) and beginning April 20th, 2021 (Eastern Time) the Yahoo Answers website will be in read-only mode. There will be no changes to other Yahoo properties or services, or your Yahoo account. You can find more information about the Yahoo Answers shutdown and how to download your data on this help page.

Trending News

Promoted
?
? asked in Family & RelationshipsFamily · 1 decade ago

I Can't Live Here Anymore-Custody Laws?

My mother is making my life a living hell. She treats everyone around her like complete **** and then demands respect from others, the respect that she doesn't deserve. If I try to defend myself, she tells me that I'm "playing reverse psychology games and trying to blame it all on me."

My mom has full custody of me, but my dad is supposed to have WED. and every other weekend visitation. The thing is, she won't let me spend the night at my dad's. She says that since he's behind on child support, he doesn't get visitation rights. Now if i drive myself to my dad's and spend the night there, is there anything she can do about it legally?

Also, if I want to move in with my dad, can she do anything about that? Will the courts make me live with my mom because of child support and because my dad doesn't have a job? Since I'm 16 years old and extremely suicidal around her, shouldn't I be able to choose?

Update:

Okay, first of all my mom is NOT a single mother. She's been married to my step father for 10 years. Yes, I have my own car. That my GRANDPARENTS bought for me, which they also give me gas $ for. Insurance? Child support.

"Mom won't let you come back..." - Oh, how nice to know that you personally know my mother and what her exact reactions will be! IMPRESSIVE.

How about thinking a bit before you assume things?

Update 2:

And, no, actually she can't have my dad arrested for me being at his house WHEN. HE. HAS. VISITATION. She's tried it before, and the cops simply said "We will not remove the child from the household unless there is evidence of an unsafe environment."

2 Answers

Relevance
  • ?
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    First, your Mother can't deny visitation based solely on the fact that your Dad is behind on child support. Second, at age 14 you can choose who you want to live with. That being said, do you really think life with Dad will be better? Dad doesn't have a job? How will he support you without one?If you go with your Dad it could be a 'one way ticket' (Mom won't let you come back after you find that life with Dad just isn't getting it)Try looking at life through your Mother's eyes, she most likely is under a great deal of stress from trying to support both of you w/o help from your Dad. You can drive yourself to your Dad's? Does this mean you have a car? Who paid for it ?Who pays insurance and gas and stuff? Yeah, if you just take off to your Dad's for the night she can call the law and possibly have your Dad arrested, so that wouldn't be a good idea. Try talking to your Mom(calmly), 'Mom, this is how I feel...' Calmly, the minute you start whining about how tough you've got it there, you will lose the debate. Good Luck and stay calm.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    First, your father can file to enforce his access rights. Child Support and Access rights are separate.

    Http://Visitation_Rights.Dads-House.Org

    As for you moving in with him, you would be considered a runaway, so he will need to file to modify the orders. These links will help him to do so, and perhaps save him some money.

    http://getting_started-fathers_n_family_law.dads-h...

    Http://Attorneys-Hiring_The_Right_One.Dads-House.Org

    Http://Father_Custody.Dads-House.Org

    As for being in arrears in child support, if this is due to unemployment, or some other justifiable cause, he can get free help to modify it.

    http://child_support.dads-house.org/

    Federal Child Support Enforcement Handbook for Non-Custodial Parents

    http://childsupportrights.org/

    http://childsupportquiz.childsupportrights.org/

    To learn a father's rights, join Dads House Educational Center in Yahoo Groups. It's free to join, access all materials You associate with other fathers going through, and have already gone through, the same issues. We have an Educational Manual that teaches everything that needs to be known in addressing your legal issues. Mention your question here when asked why you want to join, as well as your state? http://dads-house.org/

    http://www.facebook.com/pages/Dads-House-Education... \\\\\\\\

Still have questions? Get your answers by asking now.