social services are pushing for our grandchild to be put up for adoption, how can we stop this from happening?

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unfortunately my son has his head firmly in the sand, although he proclaims to want to do something about it.  Social services have slammed us as a family because we have had some problems in the past.  But they are just that, in the past.  I had post natal depression, they are claiming I have a "history" of mental illness!!!    I have five children, it happened after the last pregnancy, I did not have problems with any of the others, and my twins are now eleven years old!!

Any other problems we may have had were connected to this.  This is now long in the past.

We feel we have been deliberately pushed out of the way, to make it easier for them to take the baby away.  All of the assessment reports regarding the parenting ability of both mother and father have been positive, the problem is they are both very young.  Mother of the baby is under age and her mother plays a great part in this situation arising in the first place.  (yes I know it takes two, but she allowed the two of them to sleep together under her roof.).

Now they are saying because the father of the baby and the maternal grandmother do not get on this "could" be emotionally detrimental to the babies well being.  

My argument is therefore should we take half the populations children away from them because their relationship with the in laws "could possibly" be detrimental to the well being of the child!  

Help, what can we do.  Somebody must have some ideas.

? · Accepted Answer

Join up with the forums at http://www.fassitforums.com - thee is a link on the front page as you will get invaluable advise from other parents who have been through similar situations.  On the front page there is also a link for your rights so check that out.  Also go to http://www.fassit.co.uk as there is probably other information there which could help.

Anonymous · Answer

I can't say that it doesn't surprise me.  Child services are evil c*nts and will stop at nothing to separate families when there is no need.  Why?  Because it elevates their salary.

An assessment to them is just finding more faults whilst pretending to be fair and politically correct, they are rarely giving the parents a chance to keep their children.

Social services are trained to lie and twist the truth.

My county makes Â£12,000,000 a year off of forced adoption.

Social services generally take away children who are not living with dangerous families.  Why?  Because they don't want to risk their own safety.  Well turned out kids and babies are also easier to adopt.

I have had to deal with them both as an abused child and as a parent.  Don't think I don't know what they are like.  They buried their heads in the sand when I was being starved half to death, beaten and hadn't bathed in two years yet when I left home and had a baby they took him away because of the abuse they knew very well about but failed to protect me from.

I was lied about

I was lied to

I was forced to stay in a tiny hospital room for 3 and a half weeks after the babies birth

I was put down for being concerned about my child's health whilst I was pregnant

I was bullied

I was judged

Worst of all there is a child who could grow up feeling very empty and sad

If you have the money, get a GOOD lawyer and join loads of forced adoption support groups.  Get whoever you can to represent you.  lawyers paid by the state are often not so good.

Good luck, because you are going to need it.

Steph · Answer

I wish I could offer advice.  This is so terrible & I am so sorry that this happens to so many people.  Please do not give up.  As an adoptee I can tell you  from experience that adoption can be much more detrimental to the well-being of a child.

cricketlady · Answer

Contact a an attorney for advice--maybe you can get this done. If not--is there anyone else in the family who can apply to care for the grandchild.

Solomon Grundy · Answer

Real simple.  Get an attorney if you don't have one all ready.  I've worked in this field and have seen it happen often.  I don't know which state you're from, but you have to be aware that in certain states grandparents don't have any rights where the child is involved.  Push for guardianship.

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Family Rights Group @ http://www.frg.org.uk/

Stopping the adoption process @ http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Parents/Adoptionfosteringandchildrenincare/AdoptionAndFostering/DG_10021336

Contact Ian Josephs @ http://www.forced-adoption.com/

You may be able to get publicly funded legal advice and representation in court. A solicitor will be able to advise you. Find a solicitor through the Community Legal Service Directory @ http://www.communitylegaladvice.org.uk/

Fassit was founded in 2005. A non-governmental voluntary organisation independent of Local Authority Social Services Departments. Fassit provides a website containing information and advice for families with children experiencing frustration in working with Social Services in Child protection Proceedings @ http://www.fassit.co.uk/

Christopher Booker @ The Telegraph @ http://www.telegraph.co.uk/comment/columnists/christopherbooker/

Justice for my children @ http://www.justice-for-my-children.co.uk/

Parents Against Injustice (PAIN) @ http://www.parentsagainstinjustice.org.uk/

Home - the centre for separated families @ http://www.separatedfamilies.info/

National Youth Advocacy Service (NYAS) is a UK charity providing children's rights and socio-legal services. We offer information, advice, advocacy and legal representation to children and young people up to the age of 25, through a network of advocates throughout England and Wales. NYAS is also a community Legal Service @ http://www.nyas.net/

GOOD LUCK!

&#39;sup · Answer

Get a family law lawyer.

Cleopatra · Answer

Gather research. Here's a starting point.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QztFCKJFTng

em · Answer

You need a lawyer

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