Do you remember Torry Hansen and the son she adopted?

Good questions, Gypsy!

Yes, I believe that Torry Hansen should have to pay child support and provide medical coverage and pay boarding expenses for the child she adopted, That would be the just thing and would be the same thing required of any parent" in similar circumstances.

Yes, I believe that Torry Hansen should be charged with every single crime that even remotely applies, then prosecuted and sentenced to the fullest extent. Since this child was adopted internationally, and it was an international incident when she returned him, there surely must be international charges pending on her, and if not, perhaps Russia has some criminal charges they are considering. If so, I think she should be extradited to Russia to face charges there, too.

Futher, I believe that the agency that placed this child with this woman should also be investigated, along with the Social Worker who conducted the Home Study, There had to have been glaring oddities in the psychological profiling done on her to have missed this tendency. And, if no psychological profile was done on her that missed this glaring deficiency in her character, I would suggest that this be added to ALL future Home Studies done on ALL future adoptions.

This is a disturbing case, on many levels. Adoptive parents need to be held to the same standards, at least, that natural parents are held. Further, the people who rubber stamp these PAPs as fit because they have the capacity to sign their name to their checks need to also be held accountable. Clearly there had to have been indicators that this woman was not fit to parent a slug, let alone a child who is yanked from his culture, his language and his familiar surroundings.

Yes, Your Honor...GUILTY ON ALL COUNTS!!!

"Do you believe that Torry Hansen should be required to pay child support or not?

Do you believe that Torry Hansen should be charged with a crime or not?"

Yes and emphatically Yes. What that woman did was horrible and unconscionable.

Of course, I'm not going to use this as yet another opportunity to demonize adoptive parents. But what that woman did precludes her, in my mind, from being called a mother and is clearly wrong.

If anything should ever happen to your fiance (and you know how "murphy's law" works), you would not be able to sue the biological father for child support. If you are not independently wealthy, that might be a problem. On the other hand, if you are financially well off and believe that your son would be better off without having any contact with his biological father, you should do this as soon as possible. You are correct in thinking that your son's father might change his mind. It would be something I'd have a hard time signing.. a form giving up any claim that I have in respect to a son.

As an adopted child myself, and now an adoptive parent, I would like the full force of the law to be used against her. I can no more understand her actions than I can swim to the moon.

If any other potential adoptive parents were put off by her punishment, then they shouldn't be considering adoption in the first place. Adopting older children is hard - no child is perfect but kids in care are often psychologically damaged, by their birth parents, their time in care or both. They need mountains of time, patience and (most of all) love. If a prospective adopter isn't prepared for this, they have no business adopting in the first place. Better that a child remains in care than that he or she faces such a soul-destroying rejection.

Yes, she should be required to pay. I think and hope she should be/is barred from ever adopting again. I think she should be charged with child endangerment. That child has all the same rights a birth child would have. I wonder if I put my 8 year old BIRTH son on a plane to a foriegn country for the purpose of abandonment, would I be charged? I would hope so! I think it is a disgrace that she hasn't been charged on this already.

$2500 is generously LOW, IMO.

This woman makes my blood boil...Why on EARTH should she be permitted to keep her parental rights?! She should be charged, fined, and stripped of her rights. Yep, that's right. She should pay AS WELL AS having her rights terminated.

I get that there are no legal grounds for that, but I think it would be fun.

As would sending her to a strange country with no money or ID and a note pinned to her back detailing what kind of human being (and I do use the term loosely) she is. Just sayin'.

hold up...

she doesn't want to parent the child, yet she doesn't want to terminate her rights...but she doesn't want to pay child support?

she placed a young child on a plane to another country for someone (heaven knows who) to pick him up at the airport and deliver him to...(heaven knows) and somehow this is not a crime?

nice.

if this was a young mother (non-adoptive) who was about 19 yo, who left her child (clean, fed, properly dressed) at a walmart with a note saying she "couldn't do it", her rights would be terminated and she'd be in jail!

the fact that we are making this broad a victim, is reprehensible!

maybe there's a reason why she needed to fly over the ocean to buy a kid....

she needs to be convicted of child endangerment, neglect and whatever they'd slap on a non-adoptive parent, have her right terminated; and made to pay for the time he's in russian custody.

in addition, the TN courts are a joke! the sheriff, and DA are wimps, and her lawyer is a sleezy hustler!

i hope the russians wipe the floor with her slimy as$!

ETA: um roberta, nice try. as a child in the US, why didn't she call social services? if this child was really that bad that she needed to ship him to another effing country; why didn't she call the myriad children and youth agencies which could have given her resources for mental health services, behavioral health treatment, et al.. this is what BIOLOGICAL PARENTS usually do. we don't have the luxury of shipping off our problems to another country, being an obstructionist; and playing victim.

she viewed this child as a purchase that was defective. and any attempt to spin this is equally reprehensible as her behavior.

Don't know anything about the child support so, I won't say. But, I do think $2500 is a bit high even for US standards.

Now I do believe she should be charged with a crime. We travel extensively for my husband's work. We have lived in different areas of the world that require 10-15 hours flights and we make those flights with our daughter. As a mom with lots of experience to call on regarding a situation like what he went through on the flight alone, she should be charged with abuse. Add on all the other stuff that went on with this poor kid and she is not fit to be anyone's mother. She is self centered and probably a narcissist to boot.

She deserves the term abandoner.

ETA: I read the article. Ok, it says he lived with her less than 6 months. Arrrgh. What did she expect? That she would yank him from the other side of the world, plop him into his little life here and he would become a new child? My kid who is our biological child and is a darling little girl acts like a tasmanian devil at times when we are getting settled in a new place. How many of the issues this little boy had were actually his? And how many of them were caused by the profound lack of sensitivity to what he was going to go through once he was in his new home? He was homesick and probably jet lagged up to his eyeballs. Poor kid is better off without her.

ETA: Roberta....first, he was NOT going to GRANDMAS...GRANDMA put him on the plane to send him out of their life...second, sending your child on a 2 hour flight to Grandmas is hardly the same as a 12 hour flight to Russia from Tennessee. Go home and sit in a cushioned office chair in your house for 10 hours. Your only entertainment is the same 2 bad movies over and over again with the sound at half volume and a big pillow blocking the bottom right corner of the TV. While you are doing that spill a Coke on your clothes and socks. If you get bored, reach into your back pack and pull out your 1 toy. Only get up to go to the bathroom, but do it quickly because you only have 3 minutes. Now go back in your chair and try and sleep but make sure your pillow is too small and your blanket will not cover all of you at the same time, so get ready to contort yourself to get full blanket coverage. For dinner, think of something you cannot stand and another thing you cannot stand, now pick one of those for dinner. Do the same for your next meal. How do you feel after 12 hours of this?

I agree she should have to pay. She took on the role of mother and abandeoned her child. I don't understand why she is being treated so differently than any other parent. I don't understand why she hasn't been charged with a crime. Why are the courts treating her differently?

She should be required to pay and she should be charged with a crime. She wanted to be his parent, she legally became his parent, now she needs to step up with what that entails (you know, besides the actual parenting part, because I think it can now be agreed that the kid is better off without the creep).