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Would you be able to do this?

My boyfriend has a friend who [for free] has kids for people who cannot have kids, don't want to go through a pregnancy, or don't have a partner to have a kid with as long as they are good friends. She even has joked to me and my boyfriend that if we ever decide [much] later that we want a kid that she wouldn't mind having it for us. Now I think she has only child of her own and the other three she allowed other people to have custody over. [One for her mother, one for a friend, and the one she's pregnant with no is for another friend].

Would you be able to keep getting pregnant and having kids for other people or would that be too much of an emotional toll for you to keep going through pregnancies and have the possibility of getting attached to the child then to give it away?

Update:

I'll will answer myself too: I appauld her for having the courage to do this but I for one wouldn't be able to. One because if the person backs out then you are "left" with a child who you weren't originally planning on raising so it's a lot of quick parenting at least for the first year. Two, there is a lot of medically reasoning as to why not. Three, I would get too attached to the child. Four, there are enough children in the adoption and foster care system that you really don't need to bring more kids in with the possiblity of their potential parent backing out. ETC.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    i would never ever do something like that, how can a person expect me to go through 9 months of Morning sickness, back pain, foot pain, mood swings, cravings, weight gain, and the pain when it comes to deliver and not all kids come out easily so if there is complications that's even worse and than at the end give up the child. I would kind of understand if a women was incapable of having kids and she was desperate but me i would never ask someone because i would want my child to look like me or my spouse and she ain't sleeping with my spouse and it would just be way to awkward to have his sperm in him. And i would always be afraid that she would go on a mental breakdown and start claiming the child. I have no idea why anybody would go through so much pain and within each kid she gains more and more fat cell that will never go away

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Well, physically I wouldn't be able to do it as I no longer have a uterus, lol.

    But before the surgery, there were three people I could imagine being a surrogate for: my two closest cousins, and my best friend. I would do anything for these three women. Yes, it would be difficult to carry a child and then not raise it, but I am confident that I would be in the child's life enough where it wouldn't hurt too much.

  • Bonini
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    I think I could donate my eggs...but I do not think I could handle giving away a baby I had carried. Even with egg donation, though...I think it would have to be for someone I cared for, rather than just to a "bank". I hate the idea of someone else out there having the DNA of my child and me never knowing. I feel the same way about my husband donating sperm...no way.

    Guess we're selfish, too.

  • CDT
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    I'm honestly not emotionally strong enough to do that.

    I was severely emotionally attached to my son as soon as i found out i was pregnant and that attachment just grew over the 9 months of my pregnancy. I can't even begin to grasp the thought of just handing him over to someone else. Not to mention...i don't know how he would've been raised or treated. That's incredibly important to me; that he be raised how i want him to be raised.

    I would've been a wreck. There's no way i could do that over and over and over again.

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  • kbk823
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    I would be a surrogate only for my sister, in the event that she was unable to have children of her own. But luckily that was not an issue. I would even allow my sister to use my eggs if she needed to, but again, it wasn't an issue.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I got really sick when I was pregnant so theres just no way I could do it. But more power to her for doing it! I think its great!

  • Never, I am sorry, call me selfish, but I could never do this!

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