My pooping 5 year old?

My daughter turned 4 in Dec and she too would poo in her panties. I was becoming frustrated but would not show her that I was. It didn't matter to her how many times I told her it wasn't right for her to poo in her panties. I would even throw away her panties and tell her I wasn't buying her panties with characters on it like Dora and tinkerbell. It's been a week and a half and finally she is going to the bathroom for poo. My son got both by the time he was 3 so I thought boys were easier to train. Every child is different give him time he will eventually get it. Watch him when he farts or stand in a corner sit him in the toilet right away. Good Luck!

Sorry to ask, but does your child have other developmental delays?

My son is only 2 years old but I am trying to potty train him. His teacher said maybe he would have a problem with it because he has "body awareness" issues and sensory integration delays, she believes. He too wants only to stand to poop. However in his case, and I don't know if it is also the case with your son, he is often quite constipated.

Having given birth naturally I am quite aware that objects pass your body a lot more easily if you are upright and standing when attempting to pass them...perhaps this is also an issue.

Sometimes children with any sort of delay often have constipation and/or irritable bowel issues. Sometimes this is due to celiac disease and/or dairy or gluten sensitivities. Lately, I have started giving Miralax (in tiny amounts) daily and trying to reduce dairy and gluten with coconut milk and gluten-free baked goods and pastas.

If you think your son may actually have any sort of developmental delay, be it however minor (this problem in itself may be an indicator....you may want to check with your pediatrician...) you can contact your local county education office for special therapy. From what I understand, it's beneficial to get any sort of diagnosis they are willing to offer, because then he will get special accommodations in school. This may indeed be a problem then.

Sorry I can't really give any behavioral advice. Wish I could figure out how to potty train my son...

Tell him nicely; "Diapers are for babies! You're a big big boy now! Big boys use the potty and they don't go poo in their pants! If you want to grow up to be a big cool superhero, you need to stop pooing in your pants and use the potty! That's right even superheroes use the potty! And you need to start using it too!"

stop washing his underwear, eventualy he WILL get the picture