Why is fidelity so important in marriage? Why are we so possessive of our partners?

Why because we are human and don't want to see our mate our partner who we have invested years with "boinking" someone else on the side and acting deceitful towards us. Why is that so hard to comprehend?

fidelity is important in marriage, fidelity defines the relationship, if your going to invest time and love and money into a marriage you wouldn't want a partner you couldn't trust who at any time could leave you and destroy everything you worked for. i think its pretty normal to be kind of possessive of someone you love who is suppose to love you. some possessiveness is controlling and way too much but its good that you let your mate know that don't want to compete with anyone else and that the relationship should only include you and them.

fidelity is borne out of want and not need; i don't support open marriage; i am a man, by the way; but more often than not i see men acting like pigs and the society has always been patriarchal and made all sorts of rules for women to follow; men are hedonistic and while he ***** around on his woman, more often than not, people view this as machismo and call him a stud; if a woman does that, they call her a slut and a *****; one piece of advice to women is, if you really think romance and passion are more important to you and you realize that the novelty wears off in any relationship and that you might likely develop a rowing eye, don't get married, period. Have fun as much as you want before marriage and then settle down; why marry, because it gives security and stability; fidelity is a just a small price to pay. technically, the mere intent to cheat and lusting after another man is in itself cheating; but how many are going to confess that?

It sounds like you're married but wish you weren't. There are only two choices; Marriage and fidelity or staying single. If you still want to play, then don't get married.

because with real love you wouldn't want to see your partner getting it on with someone else.

if you do then that's isn't the one you should marry! as unless your messed up in the head (personal opinion) you don't want the true love of your life to be shared.

Maybe it's my only child thing but my husband feels the same way and he comes from a larger family of sisters and brothers.

guess i'm not an only child any more! LOL

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Because we are humans with a heart and soul.We are not dogs.

That being said any healthy person with a positive self esteem, is hurt by infidelity.

People who have low self esteem , think they deserve infidelity, think they are lucky to have anyone at any cost, do not expect infidelity.

I have been married 40 years. No one possesses anyone. We have out own interests and friends too.

Because that is what marriage is...a pledge of lifelong commitment and fidelity. If you do not want that, do not get married.

Because that's what marriage is. Choosing to be with ONE person for a lifetime. If you don't want to be faithful, don't waste your time getting married. Simple.

in marriage you made a promise to them in front of your friends family and if you believe god but being possessive is not a part of marriage i don't posses my wife she is free to do what she wants as long as she is faithful to me