So I'm breaking up with her today and need advice on how...?

Just echoing, I don't think there's anything for it but honesty. Gentle honesty.

There is nothing wrong with saying the relationship has run its course - some people are *meant to be* together, and the rest of us aren't. It's not intentionally hurtful, it's just the way it is.

I don't think there's anything wrong with saying essentially what you have said here - I like you a lot, you're a great girl, and some other guy will be lucky and happy to spend the rest of his life with you - it's just not me. I'm not the one.

If you truly wish to prevent any unnecessary pain on her part, just be ready to answer her questions. And don't sugarcoat or hesitate - be honest. Blatantly, completely honest. Yes, she is going to be hurt, but if you are as up front as you can be, the pain will subside a lot faster than if you attempt to *protect* her feelings by being vague. Uncertainty is a lot more draining than just a straight up slap in the face, if you take my meaning.

Good luck - be gentle, be calm, and be pateint.

Truth is always the way to go. And honestly, if it were me, I'd rather hear the truth. Tell her that you've realized that you and her don't have a future and you don't want to waste her time or yours anymore.

I mean, obviously you don't want to tell her that she is boring... but you can get your point across without being brutal. You say your "ambivalence" comes from being the same position about two years ago except I was on the receiving end..." except that ambivalence means you could give a rats ***.... you do seem to care very much about hurting this person right now. I admire that. But I also see this statement as a perfect one to start with ... " I feel incredibly bad doing that to someone else but I'm not doing her any favors by continuing this." So maybe start with that... "I feel terrible to do this to you... but us continuing this relationship isn't doing you any favors because I know it's not going to go anywhere....."

You can break up with a woman with class but there is no guarantee that no matter how you break up with her it's not going to be devastating. But you do need to do it now, before she invests anymore time into this. Since she is already in love with you, then there is no way around it being devastating. So just be as kind as you can, but be truthful. Good luck

One will be under assumption that you are not in love with her? quite frankly i must admit yes breaking someone heart is not only difficult but heart wrenching.So in stating that factor as you would already know this, i will concur to let her down easy with sympathy,empathy and love.

Let her know the relationship will not go anywhere because you don't feel the same for her as she feels for you.you don't want to waste each other time.

seeing that its only six months better do it now than when it gets much much harder

good luck

and remember to communicate

Explain that the relationship is boring to you and that you want to end it and move on. Just basically say the relationship is not working for you and you want out and end it. Exchange your possessions and move on.

If you are in a relationship that isn't working you are wasting your time, time that you could be spending looking for someone you want to be with, time you could be working on yourself, but you are wasting time if you stay in DEAD END RELATIONSHIPS.

i think you jumped in to the relationship too fast after you got divorced, which means she was the rebound girl, you know the one you get with after a lengthy relationship because you didnt want to be lonely, so what im tellin you is to be honest with her. she might not want to hear it now, but later down the road she will respect you because you told her the truth.....ive been there......and p.s. dont tell her you want to be friends that is the last thing she wants to hear during the break-up.....p.s.s. before you tell her you want to break up get your belongings from her house(only the things you care about) if not she will tear you sh*t up....lol

I think everything you said here is nice.

Yes it is going to hurt her, but in the long run it will help her.

I know this sucks.

Basically tell her what you told us. It will sting a little but pure honesty will help her move on easier.

just be truthful no need to do any personal attacks like my ex husband did with me no need to play the blame game. no matter how you do it if she loves you she is going to be hurt.

Be completely honest with her.. she will want answers.

Don't breakup man. love your partner and try to short out everything slowly slowly.