Guys, My husband has changed so much, any advice?

First off make sure you're not doing the same thing.

Secondly try to talk to him about it. Haha. no really.

Maybe take a small trip or vacation together to reset and relax.

Or just give him a little time and space a big part of being married is the time you spend apart.

Try to have fun for yourself and then try to include him, just dont stress about it too much, or put too much pressure on him, that wont help anything.

Best of luck.

Well you have not been married for too long yet. Sometimes people get in ruts. You fall in love, get married, it is all exciting, honeymoon... and then eventually you settle back into a normal life where everyone goes back to work, bills have to be paid and toilets need to be scrubbed. I remember changing so much for my wife that early on I really felt like I was losing myself... Stress and the realities of life put more pressure on husbands and wives... the poetry might have stopped but he may be working harder to make more money... I wish I had better answers for you.

Even as a guy I will admit this... a lot of times I fall into this trap of feeling like if I put in 10 hours at work that I don't have to do anything else in the evening. My wife cooks, cleans, watches some crappy reality TV... I just eat, hang for a bit, take a shower and go to bed. Wait until kids come along, both of you will spend so much time thinking about and worrying about them that you will feel more like roommates.

There is a reason that he does not want you along on their outings. Have you ever been invited? If not, that alone would make me wonder. How often do they get together? Several times a week? Once a month? If this outing thing is constant (Several times a week...that would make me wonder. ) if it is only monthly...that wouldn't be as suspicious. Do you still make love, does he still tell you he loves you? Is he spending alot of money on these outings or working overtime or have any other time unaccounted for? If he loves you, he would a the very LEAST invite you. If he HAS invited you and you've said no, then please take a fresh look at saying yes next time. If you are suspicious, you should make all attempts to go with the group. Be fun and energetic and non-accusing. If you can't get him to agree to you going....hire a PI one night to follow them to get the inside scoop on how your husband and this woman are acting towards one another without you there. If they are having an affair, then his other friends would never tell you. I hope the best for you Good luck.

Men especially, what is your advice?

>> Here's the whole thing - HE JUST DOES NOT KNOW HOW TO KEEP THE LOVE ALIVE!

I never knew how! In my childhood home there was very bad or no examples of consistent love and respect from our parents, so I went out into the world TOTALLY unprepared to make a good relationship with anyone.

Here's my advice. Get some relationship books or google: relationships and learn all you can plus get the information to him any way you can. When you both learn what a good relationship is supposed to be and LEARN HOW TO DO IT, you have a chance. Many will read things and either laugh them off or try the methods for a short time and then go right back to their old familiar but DYSFUNCTIONAL methods of contempt, indifference, hostility, non-loving, etc. so there is no guarantee he will take in and actually do what the relationship teachers offer. All you can do it try. It worked for me and now I am in a happy, functional relationship because we both know and use the simple techniques to keep our love and happiness just as good as it was in the beginning.

We are 100% honest, respectful, affectionate, caring, considerate, passionate, interested, romantic, patient, never critical, best friends & lovers, LOYAL and some other meaningful things.

good luck

Sometimes guys settle into being married and think there's no reason to keep courting their new wives. Doesn't always happen quite so soon though. I'm not a man, but I will suggest Retrouvaille. At least do talk to him and tell him how you're feeling. sometimes that's not enough though and you need some outside help. It's hard to start asking for things like poetry, because how will you know that he's not doing it to appease you now rather than coming from his heart. Maybe he doesn't even know you are unhappy. Communicate.

That's life.

All the love marriages starts with unrealistic expectations about other partner.And ends up as a failure.

Life is a reality.You cannot spend it by writing poetry.

I know this from my experiance.

Don't complain about anything.But you should keep that spark of yesterdays within you.

If you start complaining ,that will ruin your life.

See the positives.

I started to understand my hus ,after seeing an Interview of a celebrity's wife.She is very happy,comfortable and practical even in the absence of her very busy husband.

That made a change in me.

First, I am a woman and don't want to take sides. Does he work many hours? Maybe he is tired and needs sleep. I am a restless sleeper and with insomnia. Sometimes I go to sleep on the couch listening to music or TV. he wants quiet and he comes downstairs and finds me asleep on the couch. He alsays gives me a kiss and he understands me. We are working with L-Tryptophan natural sleeping aids. I am a sleep walker and turn on the TV or radio and like my couch. I lived alone for many years and we understand each other. That is why we have sleeping patterns that are different. He knows to not turn off the TV. I sleep to the noise.

You should try talking to him about it, ask him if something is going on, stress? anything?

Tell him your feelings on the situation and how you think things have changed, tell him how much you love him.

Make the extra effort to surprise him, the little things count.

Spice things up in the bedroom? I don't know just throwing this out there.

If worst comes try marriage counseling.

I'm not crazy or anything but you guys should try praying to God about it, if your desperate you'll try it. And it works.

Good Luck and God Bless

Wow. You know, courtship is just NOT the same as marriage. Did you REALLY expect that he was going to keep wooing you the same way that he did when he was courting you? My husband used to have flowers to delivered to me a lot when we were courting. It's okay that he stopped - it doesn't mean that he doesn't love me, it just means he does not need to keep winning me, and we have other, joint goals for the joint money.

You two need marriage counseling.

First of all important is do a strong woman, and happy living,life should be.And then ,you can talk with you husban about your feelings,find out the important questions.