Should I lend her the money?

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My ex girlfriend approached me few days back that she was broke and needed money to pay rent and buy new clothes.We were a couple for abt 6yrs and just 3 months ago, she claimed if we were to get married, she wants to get a condo instead of HDB flat.I tried explaining to her HDB flats design nowadays are just as good cos we need to be practical.(4 room unit)She told me later she wanted to break off citing reasons that many of her friends, colleagues lives in condos.I tried talking into some sense but just doesnt want to listen. Yes, I was devastated. Four months later after the break off,  i received her call saying she wanted to start anew.She also requested for a loan of  SSG 6K to pay off her debts.
I need advice as to see should i help her or reject her? pls kindly advice. some of my friends said she's faking and should just ignore her..What should I do ?

Peter · Accepted Answer

It seems that material possessions are more important to her than your love. You are still in love with her and that is where you feel torn, allowing yourself to ask if I lend her the money she may well get back with me (as that is probably what you want) and she knows how you feel towards her after all, 6 years is a long time to be with someone. You were in more of a one sided relationship where your feelings really were deeper than what she felt towards you.
She was more than happy to move on and give up what you thought you had together, and she used the type of place to live as a mere excuse to break away from you. Love is not where you live, its the being together that matters. Its your turn now to break away however painfull, and say no to the loan of money, you would never get it back.

merlin · Answer

she left a 6 year relationship over money
she didn't appreciate you then and she doesn't now

sorry

please, do not let your heart make this decision
you have earned your money
she needs to do the same or she will never be able to provide for herself
lending this money would be an epic mistake and you are never likely to see the money or her again, until she wanted more

Anonymous · Answer

If she left you because of your choice in real estate - then you need to move on.  Also, if she wants to start over with you, a loan should not be a requirement.  She is looking for money.

Ryan · Answer

PLEASE do not give her the money. She sounds like as though she wants to get married with a condo instead of you. She will definitely demand more from you in the future if you loan(probably not getting it back) her that $6k.

? · Answer

she probably thinks or knows your still in love with her so shes golddigging i suggest not to loan her the money and tell her im sorry you dont break up with me over a condo situation then call me 4 months later for 6000 bucks *****.

Anonymous · Answer

At first you should think seriously ...Do you believe her?Yes, then ok lend her money and if no then dont lend.Its upto you.

? · Answer

You are a gigantic dumbass. She's USING YOU, HOLY ****. Ignore her, save money.

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