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My friend just had a crazy blitz relationship with an "abuse"victim, what is your opinion?

Ok, this is a situation where the girl, Jane, whom he met online I fully believe has suffered long term physical and sexual abuse throughout most of her childhood. I'm doubtful of what she's saying now.

She met my friend, ****, on a Wednesday. Jumped in a car and left town with him on Thursday. Friday morning driving back into town she confessed to him that she didn't want to return home because she is 22 and lives with her brother who regularly beats her and she has no where to go and no friends. Saturday they moved in together. He drove by her house, picked up a bag of stuff and jumped in his car and moved in with him. On the Sunday he wanted her gone because he realised the whole thing was retarded and she wouldn't leave. On the Monday she was still there and he called a shelter to ask if he could bring her somewhere and got an address of where to drop her. She freaked out on him and dialed one friend and got dropped at her friends house. The next morning she went back to her brother's house.

He still wants to help her when she calls and says "I need to get out of my house, can you come pick me up?" He thinks it would be to hard for her to leave the situation because its hard for abuse victims to leave.

I'm telling him she's 22, he's her brother and she has no reason to actually stay there. He's not controlling her because in the 5 days she was with him he didn't contact her or prevent her from leaving when she returned home to pick up a bag.

She freely told someone she knew for about 72 hours her whole sob story, asked for help and moved in with him. She can tell other strangers the same thing and ask for help form people who can actually help her. She claimed she had no where to go but when push came to shove dialed one person and immediately went there for the night.

He thinks I'm being cold and heartless and blaming her for her abuse when I say she can pretty easily leave if she wants too. I'm telling him he's a giant sucker for a liar and I'm sickened that this girl would play such a card to try to get close to a guy.

What is YOUR opinion?

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  • ?
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago
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    Whether she's playing him or innocent and desparate:

    he shouldn't take her case on, but a professional should.

    He's the one at risk, for when we step in to help, we're accepting whatever baggage comes with the individual. The first step here must be Janes...and not just picking up a new loose end to later drop.

    Jane is in need of sound action: aid from a social service agency (batter victim shelter, counseling, meds...). Your friend is in jeopardy by letting her attach herself to him, simply on the basis of ignorance of her case. She may have severe personality disorder, be prone to stealing, lying or violence.

    Talk to her brother...maybe SHE's the batterer.

    (I'm just sayin'...)

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    sorry too long to read and im not getting paid.

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