Will parents think I am fishing for presents if I invite too many kids to my daughter's b'day party?

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My daughter is turning five and in preschool.  She also plays on a baseball team (coach pitch.)  She wants to invite the girls and a few boys from her class to her party that will be held at a park with a playground/baseball field.  I feel that it would be rude to leave out the last few kids and just invite them too.  There is also another girl and a few boys on her baseball team she wants to invite, but once again, I feel it would be mean to leave the rest out.  There are 11 other children in her class, and 8 others on her baseball team, totaling 19 (in addition to family.)  I do not want parents to think I am fishing for presents, and would like to tell them, more or less "You don't have to bring presents.  Just come and enjoy yourselves," but I've heard that it is rude to make mention of gifts at all in an invitation.

I just don't want anyone to feel left out.  Any suggestions on how to handle this?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I kind of feel your pain here but I wouldn't sweat it. I don't think it would be rude to say gifts are optional but to be honest who doesn't bring gifts to a kids party? If you wrote that they were optional I bet 99% would still bring gifts.  It's not hard to find a toy under $20. And you're presumably spending money to feed all your guests and entertain them right? Just make sure you feed everyone well.  Don't worry about it. Enjoy your daughter's day and remember you will be the one that has to deal with all the clutter with 19 more toys!! Lol   (sigh)
I worry about this sort of thing all the time as well but what I've learned (and seldom applied) is that usually I overthink things to death and doubt myself when I should just go with my gut. (in your case- not leaving any kiddies out. Good decision).

? · Answer

I took my boys to their Kindergarten classmate's social gathering a pair of weeks in the past and easily another toddler attended. the mum invited the full type (25 infants). i don't comprehend if that's generic or not.

Anonymous · Answer

its her 5th birthday party shes turning from a toddler to a kid i think if she wants to invite them all than they all sould be invited if you truly aren't fishing for presents than do it because you now what your doing it for

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Will parents think I am fishing for presents if I invite too many kids to my daughter's b'day party?

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