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Help! How can I impress my rich white boyfriends family with my black self?they are very respected people.?

Well, I am very nervous to meet my boyfriend's parents! When we met he never told me he was rich. He is German and I am from a Caribbean Island, He was here with vacation when we met. We met at the club and he was drunk and I helped him get in his car and drove him home and then grabbed a bus and walked home. He really liked my kindness and the next day he called me and set up a date with me. And since then he has been so kind and sweet and bought me flowers everyday. Well his vacation ended one month later and he went back to Germany. One day when I came home from school he was there with flowers I was so happy because we talked on Skype and I seriously begin to like him. He said he was here for 1 month again just for me.

Well I didn't think much of money or anything, While he was here I let him meet ALL of my ghetto Family!! (my aunt that wears a night gown all day long with no bra, my crazy grandpa who screamed at us for coming unannounced, my 16 year old pregnant cousin who flirted with him, my other aunt who stole some lamps in the house, my other uncle who told him he will only let him marry me if he has a nice penis like a black man etc. etc.) so embarrassing!!!

And when I told him I was saving up to buy a ticket there because he was coming here but I want to meet his parents, He says: Here is a ticket to Berlin, just hands it over! I was amazed! and then I asked him for his address so I can see his house on Google Maps. Then we saw this gigantic house with this gigantic pool All in this MOFOKA's yard!!! And a trampoline TOO! with 4 cars! Hot-damn! G-us!!! And now I have a ticket to Berlin for the 29th of June and I'm so nervous to meet his parents Because I know I'm loud and sadly,I know some may consider me ghetto. I talked to his parent already and these niggle's can't speak English! and I can't speak Germs! I thought I can impress them using a lot of big words. But English is not my first language.

And to tell you the truth, while writing this I used Spell Check like 100 times!

Please help me impress my in-laws! Well I started doubting myself, because I thought I was classy but now I think I'm just another ghetto chick. I also thought I can impress them wearing a lot of jewelry and my diamond ring that he gave to me.

I'm sorry that this is long but I wanted to give you a lot of details so I can get good advice.

I love my boyfriend and I know for sure that he loves me because he treats me good, he talks to me about US and our future and he is not like disrespecting or whatever.

Update:

I'm not trying to change who I am, I will always be a Black Latina, I just want to impress them before they eventually meet my family and try to convince him to leave me. Because chances are, their lamps will get stolen by my aunt.( I dunno why she steals lamps, her house is full of them) get scolded by my grandpa or asked by my uncle to show them their private parts :( . Anyway I just want them to like me, like my mother likes my bf. And he loves my mom he bought her a specially designed chain for her. I know I'm supposed to feel lucky and that I hit the jackpot but I feel more nervous and have the feeling for diarrhea. I just have the feeling in my stomach but when I go to the crapper I can't go. :(

We have been together for 10 months and we talk everyday. Sorry that my question is soooo dang long!

Have you been in this same situation? what did you do?

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  • 10 years ago
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    Be yourself. If he likes you for that, they should too. And if they don't who cares, he still likes you.

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    Help! How can I impress my rich white boyfriends family with my black self?they are very respected people.?

    Well, I am very nervous to meet my boyfriend's parents! When we met he never told me he was rich. He is German and I am from a Caribbean Island, He was here with vacation when we met. We met at the club and he was drunk and I helped him get in his car and drove him home and then grabbed a bus...

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  • 10 years ago

    the best advice one can offer in a situation like this is to be yourself. The boy likes you for whom you are and not for how you impress. If you just be yourself and be respectful of others and mindful of his parents you will do well. By changing the way you are or becoming someone you are not his parents may get the wrong impression of you . Being polite and kind is always the best way to impress others. Be helpful and prepared to lend a hand . Volunteering your help without having been prompted ; like you did in seeing him home safely that night on the Island; will show others how thoughtful and giving you are and will reveal some of the aspects the lad likes in you . good luck and remember to enjoy yourself ; not at the total expense of others ; for that is taking advantage of others generosity; offer to pay your way some; thus exhibiting some independence and showing some self worth.

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  • 10 years ago

    Ask him if he he can teach you a bit of German so it will be easier to communicate. Dont worry about making mistakes. They won't mind, as long as you're trying your best.

    You can also use some body language to try to make explaining things a bit easier.

    I'm sure they know you don't know German and as long as you're respectful to them and polite they will like you :)

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  • 10 years ago

    i say just be YOURSELF obviously you are what HE is looking for. i had my fair troubles with my currant boyfriend some family members could not accept him but i stuck by him threw everything and stayed true to myself and him... now i swear they love him more! He has found something in you, your dating him not his parents i kno parents have a lot of say but if they see how great you guys are then really what can they say i am sure all they want is for their son to be happy, and if you make him then i am sure they will LOVE ya!! hope this helps

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