I'm afraid for eveyone's safety. What should I do?

Time-out is a way of disciplining your child for misbehavior without raising your hand or your voice. The upper limit should be one quiet minute for every year your child has been alive. So if you have a 2-year-old, aim for two quiet minutes. Keep in mind, children do not like time-out, and they can be very public with their opinion. So it may take some time to get those two minutes. This is especially true in the beginning when children do not know the rules and still cannot believe you are doing this to them. Discipline works best when you administer it calmly.

Many times there are antecedents or little red flags (over tired & rubbing eyes, hungry, bored & getting antsy, etc.) prior to a tantrum happening. If you can spot what those are before the tantrum occurs, then you're more likely to be successful in redirecting their behavior by addressing what you're picking up on and re-communicating your expectations for them again, praising their good behaviors (even if small) and giving them plenty of reminders. Children tend to learn best through repetition with a consistent parenting style. It’s normal to feel overwhelmed when it comes to repeating yourself over and over but it’s a crucial part of their learning development.

Probably one of the most important teaching opportunities for parents is with modeling. During a tantrum, it's best to give them space, ignore them completely that way they cannot get the attention they're seeking. Trying to approach and correct a child who's in the middle of a tantrum doesn't do anyone any good because the message is lost in the "drama" of the situation. Here are a few negative consequences for you to try, if you haven't already, that don't only relate to taking things away or having time outs. For instance, when your child behaves inappropriately (ex. trouble sharing, picking up toys, poor boundaries, etc.) then have their consequence be to "redo" the behavior in the appropriate manner. You will need to demonstrate and model the correct behavior for them, then have them practice it. All the while it's important to try and keep a positive attitude when correcting your child, as much as possible. Then follow up their practicing of the behavior with a rationale or brief reason as to why it's important to do the correct behavior and not the bad one (relative to their age). After the child practices it, it's important to give lots of praise and affection. You could even start a reward system that they could build on, where the rewards focus on family time, fun activities (like the zoo, park, movies, sports, coloring, etc.) instead of materialistic gain (like toys). They will probably need to practice several times, and that's okay, in fact that's an important aspect. Another way to deliver a negative consequence is to have the child "undo" the bad behavior. For example, if the child colors on the wall, the appropriate reaction would be to clearly explain why that's not okay, have them clean the markings off the wall with your assistance and then provide an alternative activity for them to do after they've finished cleaning. Finally, there's a lot to be said for proactive teaching. This means you would set aside some time, maybe 15 min. each day, depending on what it is you want to address or focus on. Hopefully you would have time to prepare a fun yet simple activity that teaches them the appropriate social skills and coping strategies through the use of an activity. Or try role-playing certain scenarios for them, focusing on the correct behavior. Repetition and practice are key concepts when trying to modify a child's behavior, including when teaching them replacement behaviors.

For additional ideas or information, I'm recommending a couple of fantastic books that you might want to look into. These books have received a lot of positive feedback from readers.

The first title is: "Common Sense Parenting of Toddlers and Pre Schoolers", by Ray Burke, and Bridget Barnes. The second book is called: "1-2-3 Magic" Effective Discipline for children 2-12. 3rd Edition by: Thomas W. Phelan, Ph.D (winner of the National Parenting Publications Gold Award).

There are also a couple websites that you may want to check out. The first one is: http://www.copingskills4kids.net/ and the second one is: http://www.parenting.org/

I also encourage you to call the Boys Town National Hotline at 1-800-448-3000 anytime 24/7, if you're looking for advice, just a listening ear or want to find resources in your area. Good luck and all the best to you and your family......Counselor JH.

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You and your child should be working with a professional to teach your child how to express his wants/needs. Many times children become violent simply out of frustration. Get some professional help for both of you in which ever field he might require...sign language so he can tell you what he wants to say is a great start...if he cannot voice his needs, then signing is the way to go and simple signing can be comprehended by most. This should have been started earlier, but being young he can catch up, but will take time to resolve the violent behaviour he has learned. If he cannot hear or speak to you, imagine what his world is like.

Take him to the doctor. These are all signs of an autism spectrum disorder. I suggest you take him to the doctor NOW, maybe even the emergency room if you are so concerned. Don't spank him, under any circumstances, because it will not help, and may make things worse if the situation is a developmental disorder. Any child that does not communicate verbally at the age of 4 years has a developmental disorder. You need to take him to be seen now.

Has he been exposed to violence before?

Children - even 1 month olds try very hard to communicate with the lack of speech.

I suggest you take your son to a specialist and have him evaluated. He shows signs of severe aggression to the point where it is unnatural. It may be ADHD, psychopathy, or just pure fustration.

Please go get him checked out.

For know, try to sit him down for a heart-to-heart. Do not tell him "Don't do this, don't do that, etc".

Explain why what he's doing is not good and ask him what is wrong and what you can do to make it better.

i would take him to the doctor and tell them what he is doing or to a consular because that's not normal! maybe he has something wrong not in bad way something that's making him irritated! i would try to get help noe before he gets older good luck i really hope my advice works