How do i deal with not seeing my dad?

An intelligent question, intelligently and clearly asked.

You do need to tell your dad how you feel. He is the adult and is responsible for your happiness, and I think he might be a little sad about what you say - I hope so, and I hope he acts accordingly. You might prefer to write him a letter than to talk to him face-to-face about it. Make sure you are not moaning about him as such, or blaming him, just that you are sad about some things in your life - depressed even - especially your relationship with him and the other things you put into your letter. Another reason for writing rather than telling is because some dads aren't very good when it comes to sharing their feelings with their daughters! I guess I'm one!

If he denies stuff and puts you down, tells you you are wrong and things, it will be because he is unable to respect your feelings on the matter - and this will only be because his own self respect is weak: NOT YOUR FAULT!!

You need to build your sense of self worth up. You really can do this! Oprah WInfrey had the most dreadful childhood and adolescence, her trust completely betrayed by her own family abusing her, etc.

One thing you can do is always to ensure you have a straight back: sit, stand and walk tall: this has the “reverse psychology” effect of helping us to feel more confident. Once we have self respect and a sense of self worth, we tend to find that other people respect us more too.

I'm a relationships coach in England, so if you'd like some more help with this, please email me. Assuming you are under 18 you'll need to ask your mother's permission - and perhaps use her email address.

Good Luck!!

hi what i would do is talk to my dad about it just the two of you he needs to know how you feel

Tell your dad about how you feel about the situation.