How to to get my parents off mine and my husbands back about having a child?

I think its your mum who is being selfish here..is her life so empty that nothing but the thought of more granchildren will cheer it up for her?

I have four kids and one granddaughter. I couldnt care less if my children decide to have 8 children each or none. Its not my life and as long as they are happy, that is all I care about.

I think you are going to have to tell your mother very firmly that this topic is off limits from now on. Theres no point in her dragging it up all the time. Explain that if she keeps on in this way there is a real danger of her losing her daughter completely. Im sure she doesnt want that. good luck!

You're parents sound very, very deeply religious. In many religions, having children is seen as an act of faith to God. (Of course, not to mention that it creates more people following the same religion...)

Your parents will never change their ideas about this, so don't try to make them. Just tell her that you are an adult, and old enough to responsibly make choices about your own life, especially when it comes to how you want your family to be. By abstaining from having a child until you are ready (or never, if you so choose) you are demonstrating responsibility. It's totally up to you and your husband. Your mother is both blind and immature if she honestly thinks that you are selfish and disappointing to God for not having a child.

It's sad to say, but this sounds like a real issue between you and your parents, and it will likely never change. Best of luck regardless.

You should never let someone make you feel about your yourself or what you say or didn't say, That why we have a right to have free speech because we all can speak what on our mind. Anyway it your body and you have a right to do with what you please so what you don't children now or tomorrow that your right who know how you might feel down the line. A beside the way the economy look now it hard to have children, because some people loose their job, prices on foods and other things are up and more. So it hard now on some people now and if your mom can't understand that maybe you it a good idea not to talk to her, but say a pray about her cause prays help it chances things. Right now it should be about your husband and you, and that all should matter.

Tell them if they want a child so badly to have one themselves.

My parents and I had a long discussion a few years back about my want to never have children, this was hard for them as I am an only child, but after I explained to them that why I didn't want to have children, they no longer brought it up.

Tell your mom if she can't respect your wishes, then she doesn't respect you and if she still can't handle that, then you both need to accept reality and either don't talk or have a strained relationship.

I haven't had this problem but I would advise you to say to your mother "Mother, I cannot continue to talk to you while you insist on interfering in this part of my life with my husband." Tell her, nicely but very firmly that if she raises the subject again on the phone that YOU will put the phone down on HER....not the other way round. If she raises it in person, tell her you will stop visiting her.

I know this is hard but you have to take control.

Good luck

Actually you've not mentioned whether you n your hubby want a child or not... i think not having child even after 2-3 yrs is also common... i mean babies are a big responsibility and giving birth is the biggest challenge. so i would advice you to make ur mom understand ur problem...n tell her that whether you are prepared physically for it or not! i knw she will understand you problem for sure...n all the best 4 ur new life... :)

its not your fault thats for sure they cant make you have kids.