how many husbands believe their wives have their head up their...?

Dont feel bad, my wife reduced her hours at work and then went and got her eyes done and got braces. Most of the time as guys we just have to consider wether it is cheaper to keep her or cut bait and get out of there. This is not an unusual situation , I think as women have gotten more power in the work place and society they have lost their ability to reason.

Is she fully aware of how much money is being brought into the house as well as where it's going and how much is left over after all the bills?

Who takes care of the finances and bill paying in your household?

This is why my husband and i sit down every week to balance our checkbooks (joint account) and every month to pay bills together. So we BOTH know where our money is going and how much we have...so neither of us has any misconceptions on the financial path we're on.

I suggest you pull out the bills or books you keep your financial information in and start educating her so she doesn't remain to in the dark on these things. During this time, you can explain to her why getting all of her dental work done at once is not an option at all.

I see lots of financial pressure in your family. It would look like wife has been putting off dental work for financial and fear reasons for a while. However good teeth is a self esteem thing. It took me twenty years to finally fix a combination of hereditary and self care dental problems. anyway back to your case. Your marriage is in a critical phase, 10 years, your wife has obviously assessed her options going forward, she has gained a sense of independence that wasnt there 10 years ago, she has also become capable of overcoming her fear to do the necessary. Your concern should be why now?. Why so insistant despite the obstacles. She has got a plan and you need to know what it is, Its like a guy trying to lose weight suddenly when he is interested in something else. You need to embrace your wifes decision making process here, I am sure you have both sacrificed much. This is drop in bucket in your overall financial situation so WTF. do it now. better than still playing with it 8 years from now when you should be enjoying life together.

Is she crazy? Let her pay for it for her neglect of 10 years. I have a spouse that does the same thing. She neglected her dental health for years. While I had dental insurance she refused to go to the dentist. Now I dont have insurance and she is in pain. Go figure.

What if you'll have to talk with your wife all the finances inside the house? Let her understand all the expenses; I think it will make her thought of the things she is doing.

I would suggest buying dental insurance for your family much cheaper and you can stop paying when they get there teeth fixed your wife sounds selfish

She can't even fill out the paperwork herself? She probably needs a math class, not gold-plated teeth.

I feel for you. You are not alone.

My grandparents go to Mexico for that stuff. They are filthy rich but it's because my grandpa is a tight wad! Might want to look into that.

Write all your balances down on paper. Once she sees it, she might be able to understand.