Have you ever been truly in love?

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I stumbled into a woman whom I was totally in love in High School - we never talked to each other I was just mesmerized by her beauty.  I have been married for 26 years and just looking at her pictures I just realized I have never had those feelings for my wife. She just accepted my friend request through facebook but have not started a conversation yet.  I am 48 years old feeling like a teenager - anxious and do not even know how to start a conversation.  I am as nervous as the only time I said hi to her.

I am not looking for an affair or anything but I have had the desire to tell her she was my muse and that she inspired me to write a few songs in the past.  Should I even try to befriend her?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

you're dying to get balls-deep in that.


come on man stop trying to bullshit a room full of bullshitters.

? · Answer

Uh, dude, that isn't even close to love.
It's called sheer animal lust.

Love means making a CHOICE to be committed to someone, cherishing everything about them, being supportive of them no matter what, being there for them all the time, forgiving them, accepting them for who they are, treating them as they deserve to be treated by one who loves them.  That is what you should feel and how you should act toward your wife.

Not some high school crush that you lusted over.  Stay away from this woman or you have a high chance of betraying your wife and destroying her heart.  Your wife is the one that you should be loving.

K8 · Answer

Yes I am in love and the love has grown over a 24 year marriage.  What you feel is lust and a mid life crisis.  You owe your wife, your family, and yourself a whole lot more respect, care, and real love than lusting after someone like a little boy.  Man up and stop all contact or your whole world could come down around you.

TheycallmeMom · Answer

26 years is a long time to be married. Just think first how would it feel if you found messages on facebook from your wife to another man that said"  I never felt the way about him that I did about you" "you were my muse"...pretty hurtful huh. Sounds like mid life crisisville to me. Be careful!

Tapestry6 · Answer

Oh please you are just going through male menopause. You are not going to enjoy one minute of this fantasy land you are in right now, you probably got kids and a house.. and you dump it all for some gal you thought  you loved in high school?  My gosh man get a bit of maturity and integrity in your life and dump the facebook account your way too old for that drama!

skye skye · Answer

Gotta agree with Ravenys - it's playing with fire. What if she does go after you, how would you explain that to your wife? That's got disaster written all over it man!

e.a.hill582002 · Answer

You should be ashamed of yourself,why has your wife put up with you for all these years?

Marcus · Answer

Go back to her, if that's what you want lol 26 years past or not, you always go back to you're first love, love in neva too old my man

Anonymous · Answer

Ron, you are playing with Fire.

Also, if she was hot in high school I bet she isn't anymore.

Anonymous · Answer

Grow up and move on with life...

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