Need help!!! how do I do this?

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Can't change, feel stuck...help?
Feel worthless, like nobody notices me, feel the odd one out, I think I feel this because as a kid I got negative critisicm and was teased alot about my dad following me. So I felt a joke and different from everyone else, got knocked back when I was younger by alot of girls because I was needy, clingy and expressed my feelings too early on and that really hurt so I was scared of getting rejected because the pain. This is why I believe I'll get rejected because i'm seen as a joke and worthless... I want to change my belief but it seems so true, even though they are just thoughts, they seem believable.

I'm scared of being happy in a relationship incase I get rejected, I got the mentalitynow that eventually in any relationship i'll get rejected, like i'm jinxed or unlucky or something undetectable. I wish I didn't feel this way I feel doomed.

How can I change??

When I was 14 I was fat and found it hard to fit, also my mum was very over-protective so my dad came everywhere with me which was embarrasing.

It feels as though i'm cursed in relationships and i'm the only one like it....

can you help me with advice??

p.s parents constantly argue around me and I ******* hate it!!!

I'm 21 years old btw!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Sounds like you are insecure and need someone to tell you that you are worth something.  Hence the youtube video link you have given of your singing.  You need to get away from your parents (especially your mother, by the sounds of it) and make your own life, as soon as possible.  Though of course you will have to give your dad the slip first...

You are not the only young person who feels like this.

Midwest guy · Answer

Sounds like a bad childhood and I understand.  I was not very respected by family and friends as a child.  As I grew in an adult I felt more and more secure.  I finally went to counceling and got help.  Now I feel better about myself.  I learned that if people do not like me for who I am, to bad, kiss my rear.  As far as parents, I put them in my past as soon as I could move out of the house.  They caused most of this, and my older brother was part of my problem   

Get new friends, and find someone you can talk with, but professional help will help.  Want to chat with me sometime, hit me up on YIM, rwjinalton is my id.  Good luck buddy.

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