Why does everyone get up in arms over "Birth Mom", but not "Adoptee" or "Foster Child"?

I hate the term birth mother as it suggests I only gave birth to my son but I also went through 9 months of pregnancy. The first time I heard of the term was in 2004 through going on forums and groups. It is a term that has never sat right with me plus I have been a mother post reunion. Also when it is shortened to bm I think of bowel movement. I have a friend who prefers to refer to herself as formerly fostered as she is an adult so therefore not a fostered child but she doesn't have a problem with the actual term. My son doesn't mind the term adoptee because that's exactly what he is. He had more of an issue with his adoptive parents telling people he was adopted and kicked off about being adopted as it made him feel different to his brother who wasn't adopted so they didn't do it again. However I refer to my son as that because he is my son even though I didn't raise him.

When I use the term "birth mother" or "biological mother" I hope people understand that I do not normally use this when talking about my mother and definitely not to her, and I do not refer to my other mother as "adoptive mother" either. The only time I use these terms are when I am in a situation where I am talking about both at the same time, and I need to use the label so people know who the heck I'm talking about. To people I am close with I just use first names (although I'm not about to do that on here).

I think people are offended when others use the term in a degrading matter, to suggest that they are ONLY the mother by birth. It's pretty offensive when people say something like "oh it's their adopted child" because well....it's not necessary, and I'm still my mom's child. People don't typically do this, however there are a few people out there who have. If it fits into the story though (such as talking about inherited genetics) it's not offensive. Like when I go to the doctor because something is wrong and they ask for my family history, I tell them I'm adopted and don't have that information (or as of late, give them the information I do have).

I am an adoptee......its simply a statement of fact, why should I object to it? Im a VERY long way past being a child, but I will always be an adoptee. As for birth mother, well.....I dont really think I would like to be called by something that gets abreviated to bm, or bowel motion......so thats out. Furthermore, my natural mother wanted to parent me but wasnt permitted to.......when I finally was reunited with her she was a loving and involved part of my life. Why should I then reduce her imput to one small act?

My natural mother loved me and wanted me. Her contribution to my life was much greater than the act of giving birth.

My kids are just my kids, People that known me more than 4-5 years know the kids are adopted simply because I didn't have kids 5 years ago.

For online purposes sometime roles need to be spelled out.

Their bio mom is referred to by her first name in my house, the kids lived with her for 9 &10 years....that's what they call her.

in text birth mother or biological mother goes to bm in the medical field bowel movement. And only ships give birth: Birth on Mauritian ship or aircraft

(1) Where a birth takes place on board any ship or aircraft registered in Mauritius the master of the ship or aircraft shall draw up a memorandum of the birth.

(2) On the arrival of the ship in any harbour of Mauritius or the landing of the aircraft in Mauritius, the master shall deliver the memorandum to the Director of Shipping or the Director of Civil Aviation as the case may be, who shall transmit it to the Registrar of Civil Status for registration in the appropriate Register.

Women bear children and past tense women bore children. Of course women that never experienced this act of delivering a child would understand that a woman can not give birth every second of everyday and produce an offspring. Women that claim to do so also claim to miscarry every day and you can not get pregnant everyday it truly is a cycle.

I know people can't understand that in the eyes of god the woman that bears the child will always be the child's mother or natural mother because god gives certain women life for a reason. Moses had his mother by his side to raise him as his nanny or wet nurse. God has always intended for women to raise their offspring.

Adoptees chose to be called adoptee, if they don't like it they can be referred to as the adopted child which most hate. Birth mom was created by the adoption agencies to dehumanize relinquishing mothers.

When it has to be specified, like in here...I am a birth mother. I also have a birth mother and a mom...I dont call my mom my "a" mom. I dont like "natural" mother....just sounds to hippie-ish to me. Like I gave birth in a field of flowers wearing Birkenstocks or something while the group sang Kumbaya! LOL and bio mom sounds like I grew him in a lab. So, Im his birth mom...the woman who has raised him is his mother. I have no issue with this as I believe this to be true.

Actually I think that in the case of adoption that it should be birthmom or birth mother or biological mother because thats what she is. Not all of them stay in their childs life but they did give birth to the child and are biologically linked to the child. For father it would be biological father. As for foster child or adopted child I find it stupid to give a child those labels they have names and should be referred to by their names. I get why foster moms are called that because they are just fostering and aren't the actual mom legally and most foster kids would call their "foster mom" by their first or last name anyways.

I think u so right