is adoption a bad thing? read b4 u get confused XD?

No adoption isn't a bad thing. I gave my son up for adoption because I wanted him to have the best life possible. I have no regrets and he is perfectly happy. Its an open adoption but he knows that I am not his "real" mother. That being said, its not for everyone. Its the hardest thing you may ever have to do. But having and raising a baby may be just as hard or even harder depending on your circumstances. However if you're willing, you could make it work the best you can.

Abortion is a woman's choice and if she doesn't want one, then she shouldn't have one.

First of all though, go to the doctor and find out for sure if shes pregnant. Alot of the time its just a scare.

Just as with every matters in existence, there are well and unhealthy points to adoption. Adoption is well for kids who want houses or who're in abusive instances. Adoption is unhealthy whilst it's selected for the incorrect motives or there's coercion concerned with the system. As lengthy as adoption is finished within the satisfactory curiosity of the baby, this can be a well factor. Whenever a baby isn't held on the core of the system, then this can be a unhealthy factor.

Get a test done ASAP! If she is pregnant every day is important to get the best nutrition and get on prenatal vitamins for a fetus to develop healthy. I think it is a good decision to give it up for adoption if you two do not feel ready to raise a child. They are a treasure to raise if you are "ready" to care for a child and put your own wants/needs/desires aside and focus on raising your child the best you can, that HAS to come first. My sister adopted to babies, both were open adoptions and the mothers do not regret it and the girls have had a good life that their birth mothers were not able to provide. That does not mean adoption is easy for the biological mother, it is hard. BUT knowing that you two have chosen the people who will raise your baby and having contact with them throughout the baby growing up, you both will see that it was the best option for you at the time.

Agencies do charge money to the adoptive parents to "find" a birth mother. I do not think this is right or fair to anyone. I do not support those agencies. i believe if I am meant to adopt, it will happen without the help of an agency. I still HAVE to get background checks done, take classes and have a home study (that is required by law). No one can adopt without that being done but that is not done by the same agencies that charge astronomical fees to "find" a birth mother for the potential adoptive parents.

If she is pregnant take time to find the best person to raise your child. It takes time to build trust and a bond with the potential adoptive parents to really get that gut feeling, who will be the best ones.

Please don't abort the baby. I know it's a personal choice but my personal feelings are that a baby is a gift and is a human being from the moment of conception. Abortion is just a nicer term than murder. I'm not being judgemental and if that's what you choose to do then people (myself included) should respect your decision but I still feel abortion is wrong...

Ok I got sidetracked... Find out if she is pregnant. Go to a clinic and get it checked. She can go by herself and keep it confidential if that is what she wants to do.

If she is pregnant and you both don't want this baby. Then I would definitely support the idea of you finding a family to adopt the baby. Try to find one before the baby is born because otherwise he/she will go to an orphanage or another state facility and not all of those are pleasant. So try to find a suitable couple/mother before you have the baby. But make sure that is what you really want to do. It's not something you can change your mind about later.

If your families are supportive you might choose to keep the baby. With your families help you would both be able to finish school and start your careers. You just wouldn't have the party scenes nearly as much. Also, if you guys are worried that you won't be together forever then just talk about that stuff now. Figure out which one of you would keep the child and which one would have weekend visitations and that sort of thing. You want to plan it early and ensure that you both will have a working, civil, friendly relationship no mater where you stand as a couple.

Just weigh your options and if she is pregnant talk to your families about what to do. Talk to eachother. But if you decide to give the baby to a family and they are waiting in the wings to take the baby, You can't change your mind once you see your daughters beautiful eyes.

Good Luck. Think on it. Talk about it. Pray about it. He will help you through this. I hope this helps.

Adoption is not a bad thing or an evil.

I think both you and your girlfriend realize that at 16 and 17, you are not in a good position to give the child a stable future. More importantly, neither you or your girlfriend want to keep and raise the child.

Go to the doctor's and make sure she is pregnant. If she is, then you and her can decide what to do but be realistic about what you can and can not do at 16 and 17. Talk to your parents. Talk to the doctor. Talk to other single, teenager mothers/parents. Get as much information as you can. Know your rights.

If, after all that, you and your girlfriend decide to give the child up for adoption, go talk to an agency. You can choose an open adoption where you can receive pictures and letters and possibly even have contact with the child and even though some on here will tell you that post adoption contracts are not enforceable this is patently untrue depending on what state you live in. (Again, learn and know your rights).

One last thing, how many months is your girlfriend suppose to be because 15lbs is way to much weight to gain in the first month or even the first trimester. That is roughly half of what a woman should gain so it is important to find out if she is pregnant as soon as possible because if she is pregnant, she will need to start eating a lot better and if she isn't pregnant, then she might have other health issues. Just curious, did she, by any chance, change her birth control pills? This can cause the weight gain and sore breasts and nausea also.

Good Luck.

well what does she want to do really because a lot of girls say that to please their boyfriend? does she want to take care of it deep down? because none of those options will be the perfect choice, but here's an option, have the baby, spend 6 months with it and then you two should have your mind made up with what you want to do with it, like place it up for a private adoption, or something to that affect, it takes way longer than nine months to make a life ultering decision so be wise about this. you sound like you're afraid of responsibility but you need to grow up, and accept you may be a father, if you stick around she wont sue you for child support, but the moment you leave, all of the bf gf stuff is out the window and the child will always be number 1 priority. Abortion may be ok option but she may be a little far along for that. it's best to see the test results before letting your minds run away with you before you even are sure.

Depro povera shots cause weight gain. Spotting & irregular periods are also totally normal. It's virtually impossible to get pregnant on the shots.

There's no point in answering the rest of your question since you have no idea if she's pregnant or not.

First thing's first. Your girlfriend needs to go to a drug store or a grocery store and get herself a pregnancy test. Has she missed a period? That's the biggest sign. Things like nausea and weight gain don't usually happen for a month or two.

You need to know the answer first, before you get ahead of yourselves and start making plans. It's all hypothetical at this point and like most very serious and life-changing situations, you can think "what-if" all you want, but you won't know how you feel until it actually happens.

I don't think adoption is necessarily a bad thing, but it is a complicated one and as young as you both are, you would need guidance and education (lots of education) before making that decision. Whatever the outcome, you both need to make a completely informed decision.

ETA: If she's on depo provera, it is unlikely that she is pregnant. Possible, yes, but the incidence of getting pregnant while on Depo Provera is quite low. It also causes weight gain.

If you don't want the possible child to feel abandoned than man up start looking for a job even if it is only part time after school. Waiters can make a good $60 a night (4-5 hour shift) if not even more on a busy night. Why part time might not pay for an apartment and bills it will pay for diaper, baby wipes, formula, and help with day care if your parents don't opt to babysit for you. Baby furniture can be bought used or be given as a baby shower gift. Craigslist.org and freecycle.org both have free items you can get. Babies don't need anything fancy they just want somebody to love them and take care of them. You can still go to college and get a good job, it might take a little longer or be a little tougher but it will be worth it. It teaches kids value to see there parents climb the latter of success.

If you don't want to keep the fetus can you wait on adoption until after the baby is born? How would you feel to find out you were adopted and the reason why was your parents didn't want to keep you?

Don't take the easy way out and do the best thing are both keeping and raising the child. Do you or her have a family member that would like to raise a child so that the baby can at least be around familiar faces and doesn't have to feel like a total misfit in a strangers family?

Then again she might not be pregnant and going through a growth spurt or widening of the hips.

First, she needs to get tested to know if she's pregnant or not. This isn't something to procrastinate about.

Second, she needs to decide whether to have an abortion or not and you need to do the right thing and support her choice either way. You can express your wishes about this but it is really her choice to make. Without pressure.*

IF she's pregnant and doesn't want an abortion, THEN you both need to decide what to do. This is also the time to tell your parents what's up. But it's still both your responsibility.

Adoption is an option but it takes both parents to agree to it. I've never even been pregnant but to me, the thought of carrying and having a baby and giving it up to possibly never see again is just utterly horrible. There is no way she will do that without having deep emotional scars for the rest of her life. I can't imagine it would be pleasant for you to go through life wondering either.

It's especially bad because adopted children don't have an easy time of it emotionally either, to say the very least.

Also, you should know that giving up a baby for adoption in the US really means going to an adoption agency that will SELL your baby to people who want to adopt. No joke, that's how adoption agencies make their money, by charging the adoptive parents for finding and procuring a baby. And they make a very good living doing it.

If she chooses parenting then you both need to work with each other to figure out how to best care for and raise a child together. This is a life commitment for you both, and is really no longer about either of you or your relationship with each other. You have to seriously discuss custody, support (not just money), help from parents and available public services, and how you can both raise your child and still have plans and goals for the future. Children don't come cheap and raising a child is anything but easy, but people do it anyway.

Yes, you are 16 and this is overwhelming and scary and I fully realise that. But it's how it is.

* I think abortion would be best in your situation but it really is a personal choice and it's her call to make.