My friends say insulting things to me?

I was in the military. I had a lot of problems and issues while I was in, and people would make fun of me in literally the harshest ways imaginable. But the thing was, that was how our friendship worked there. We would crack jokes at each other and literally pick at our self esteem and even say racist things to each other; to where if you were to come up and hear this, you would think we were sworn enemies. The thing is, we knew that in the end, we would have each others backs if something went down and that we are all a big family.

Depending on what they are saying, you can easily decipher whether or not they are doing it because they don't like you, or if they are doing it because this is just how they have fun. If you REALLY want this to stop, you talk to one of your best friends, or the one who usually does all the talking, and when no one is around, you tell him/her how you feel. But don't sound like you can't have fun with each other because if you sound like you will be butt hurt over the smallest joke, they won't want to be near you.

If you figure out that they are really just doing this to have fun, and that they make fun of the other group members too, and not just you, then just talk smack back. You may not be good at it (trust me, my supervisor was pro at talking Sh*t, and I couldn't get him back), but it shows them that you're a good sport. It's up to you.

I agree, friends aren't suppose to put you down in such a negative way. I mean, it's okay for them to joke around and stuff but it shouldn't be to the point where it actually hurts you. Friends are suppose to lift you up. Confront them about it and tell them how you truly feel. If they can't understand it, they're not your true friends.

It's one to tease. It's quite another to racist insults. I think if someone says something racist,first tell the friend closest to you to stop saying racist stuff. Then if that doesn't work, get up and quietly leave the conversation.

they are NOT your friends!!!!!!!!! friends dont treat you like crap... leave these evil ppl & make new friends NOW