I got a girl pregnant who isnt my gf.?

If you're not ready for kids then you're not ready for sex, especially with only 1 form of birth control (or none at all).

You're half of the equation and now you have to own up to it!

You do have a few options here. I wouldn't recommend moving in together or getting married because of the baby because those relationships never work out and in the end the child feels like a burden. But not being involved is a bad idea as well. Financial support is important but you also have to be in this child's life. Whether you like it or not, you're going to be a father. And even though she was on the pill, you took a risk when you chose to sleep with her. Now you need to be a responsible adult.

One other thing, is she sure it's yours? If you two were having casual sex outside of a relationship then there's a chance she had multiple partners. Don't abandon her claiming that it's not yours but don't let her take advantage of you either. Ask for a paternity test and support her until you find out. If the baby isn't yours then you technically have no obligation. If it is yours then congratulations, you're a dad.

first make sure the baby is yours or that she is pregnant at all. it is pretty rare to know that you are pregnant in under a month. the few that i have known were in the hospital for surgery of some type when that happened. paternity tests are good things.

if you do not care for her, while not the best ideal for the mother of your maybe baby, then it is better that you just support the baby financially and be a good weekend dad. you will have to grow up some there but it usually isn't overly painful to do so. you are 22, most would say you are full grown.

as my mother used to warn me. never sleep with someone you do not want to deal with the rest of your life because if you have a child with them you are connected to that person forever. even if you hate them.

I'm possibly in the same situation as the lovely lady you knocked up, and I'd have to say, assuming you two were just hookup bodies and you have no feelings, don't try and make a relationship with HER, moving in could just cause fighting, which isn't good for any of the involved parties. However, you need to make a relationship with your baby once it is born and financially support it.

You would honestly even think about just financially supporting her. Its not like you can just pretend like the never happened and just casually saunter off. If you had no feelings for this girl why were you hooking up with her. You should really be a man and be part of this childs life.

I think its really good u r thinking bout helping and want to that's good please dont run its not ok and women shouldn't have to take it all on just cause there the ones carrying the baby im glad ur not being a coward and running and glad ur taking the responsibility u should be taking of course if u didn't she could still take u to court so it shows good character.... And no ones truly ready it will come natural tho so dont worry bout that ok good luck much love =)

Well first make sure it's yours! Get a test, if you're not ready than that's your choice. I mean I'm a strong believer in taking the consequences for your actions but if you feel you can't do it then it'll probably just turn out badly. She'll find someone. She should have thought it out better.

doesn't really matter if your ready or not, even if she was on birth control you should have used a condom, you don't know what she could have and you can't guarantee that she is on birth control, add to that birth control is not 100% effective so next time, wrap it up! either way you're going to be a dad, you don't have to live with her but you need to be a part of that child's life.

Man up, it doesnt matter if you are not ready to be a "father figure", you child needs a father, it can cause a lot of emotional problems for your child, do you want to be responsible for that? You dont need to move in with her, but you do to be a father.

please make sure she is actually pregnant first. go to a doctors appointment with her.

Always use a condom.

You may not be ready to be a father figure, but if she is pregnant, at least get to know your child, and let your child know you, before you make up your mind what to do. you don't have to move in with this girl to be a father.