Can a Hmong man be with a white women?

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Here's  the story... my boyfriend is Asian / Hmong and he does not see the problem with dating white or other culture women,  and nither does my best friend / his brother, but his parents are strict and his grand parents.. oh boy. Ive bought many books, Iam trying to learn the culture so that maybe I can be excepted by his family more. My boyfriend of 4 years worries about his family and I've  told him I don't  want to be in the way of him and his family, that no matter how much it pains me I would leave if that was needed . He does not want that either . My question is what can I do to be excepted a bit more by the Hmong people, and put my boyfriend at ease?  Thank you for reading.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

The reason he or his brother does not have a problem with it is because they are more liberal and open minded.  His parents are most likely more traditional and conservative.  I wouldn't worry too much about his grandparents but I'm surprised his parents have a problem with it?  My brother is asian and he's married to a white woman.  Your boyfriend is very lucky!

ZC · Answer

Hmong parents love the image of a perfect considerate wife. I'm sure, that with you as his gf, they have considered the possibility of you two getting married in the future. What I'm trying to say is that if you want to at least get along with them, bring them food, or make them food. Show them you're able. Smile more when you're around them. When your bf is sick, bring him soup or something. Show them that you can take care of others as well. But this also means that you should consider what they think a woman should/shouldnt do as well, like dont return home late, or dont stay in his bedroom. Just show them that you are a respectful, ambitious and considerate woman.

ID88 · Answer

You're doing the right thing....learning about the Hmong's culture is one way....
I had my first hand seeing their culture and heritage about 6 years ago in Appleton, Wisconsin.
Good and honest people......Good Luck & God Bless.....

? · Answer

Show them how much you know about their culture and that will not try and change it.

Love comes first.

Anonymous · Answer

My dear:
I am Asian but not H'mong ethnic. I sympathize to your situation but i sincerely confide to you that your cultural base is extremely different from his.
Can you imagine how difficult your life will be if you marry him?
I don't mean i wouldn't accept him if i were your parent but i just remind you to think carefully before deciding.
I pray Jesus Christ to bless you.

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