Would you find it offensive if....?

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My family is having their traditional Christmas get together, however this year 5 or 6 of the 15 of us gathering said they could not afford the $5, gift for our traditional Yankee gift exchange, so all of us agreed not to do it.
But in keeping with the spirit of giving I decided to give each person a $1 scratch ticket in a custom made card. Just so some sort of gift is given.  But my mom said that I should not do it because the family members who said they couldn't afford to give a gift might be offended. I don't see how getting a gift could cause or be taken as an offense. 
So my question is; would you be offended, if after declining to buy a gift for the gathering, a family member gave you a gift?

? · Accepted Answer

She means because it makes them feel bad for not being able to give.  Some people are like that but not all people are offended at that.  I like getting things like that because it says that someone thought of me.

? · Answer

It does seem a bit offensive because you know they are having money problems and it seems like by giving them a scratch ticket you are saying "Here take this! Maybe you will win some money or something".  It's a really delicate situation..maybe try getting them something else?

Ed Fox · Answer

If members of a family cannot manage five bucks, perhaps they'd better forget about the get together and just stay home

The Leaf Princess (Wonderland) · Answer

Maybe just give them a card, I wouldn't be offended by that.

Anonymous · Answer

No if its only a doller ticket, I dont see why ur mom would be upset. Merry Christmas  :)

Melinda Sue Fritz · Answer

wow  they  cant   afford   5   dollars  . im  really  sure
no i  wouldnt
but  some  would

Anonymous · Answer

if it's no than no...listen to your mother...she understands the dynamics of the family better than you do.    there is a pride issue here you sound too young to understand

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