Do you think my parents are overprotective an exceeded there limit?!?

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Ok, I have always been a good child all my life, I had good grades and was always on honor roll. I am 17 now, going on 18 in a couple months. I am also a freshman in college at a university. I am majoring in Clinical Psychology an a minor in Biology. I always had strict parents, my parents never let me went to a sleep over, or even have friends over for the night. My parents always made me go to bed at 10:00pm everyday! Only let me go to the movies if it was a girl, and they never let me went on a date. And I am also living on campus to as well, and they always want me to come home EVERY weekend! Also, every time I am at home they always keep me locked up in the house. I feel like I cant have no freedom what so ever! I cant even go to my neighbors house, and I have tried to many times for my parents to meet my friends and there parents as well but they always say "I dont want to meet them!" My first semester of college was fine, other than I struggled with Biology pretty hard and my professor speaks foreign, so its hard to understand him you know? I got a bad grade in Biology this semester but the rest of my grades was fine, 2 C's, 2 B's, and one A. Thats not to bad for a freshman in college an plus my university is catholic an its prestige! However, my parents freaked out about that and went crazy and before I went to the university I had to beg my parents to even let me go there and stay on campus. (I wanted some freedom, and try to work my way in becoming a responsible adult). Now my parents want to take me out of the school an make me go to a junior college over one bad grade! I have tried to talk to them so many times about this and it just wouldnt work out the way I wanted it to be. I really, truly believe that if my parents let me stay at the university of my dreams, I would work on Biology and dont give up. My parents are making it seem like I cant do it at all. Also, they wont even let me change my major, just a mess you know! I have always been a good child. One day I decided to stay with a friends over the weekend before I came home, and I told my parents that I would and they freaked out. I wouldnt tell them the exact address but I did tell them what city I was in and that I was with an adult as well. They freaked out and called the police and it was just a mess. I told them that I am 17 and you wont even let me stay over at a friends house! So my parents came an got me because I told them the address and that I am mature enough not to go behind there backs and act immature you know. So while I am on break, I havent been no where or anything! Its crazy, then they tried to take me to a psychologist but the lady told them that they are overprotective! My parents then got very vindictive, an mad and then tried to blame something on me so the Psychologist wouldnt pay them any mind. I am just so hurt, like my year was a mess and I lost my grandmother an my aunt. And all I wanna do is have that college experience. I apologize so many times and I sacrifice a lot of things, such as no FB and they want me to not have ANY social life at all!. What should I do? Thank you for reading, sorry my story is so long.

Update:

Plus my parents never let me have a job in my entire life!!!! Make me get off the phone at 9:00. I never been to a concert, never had a boyfriend or date. And I am loosing friends because of there over protectiveness. I cant even go to the store or the mall unless I am with them, they treat me so childish. Plus I am always doing chores! Please help thank you so much! :/

Update 2:

Yea I will try to sit down and have a talk with them, I know they want the best for me. And all I can do is try my best and be the best daughter they want me to be. I just want them to understand I am getting older, and I will eventually have to start making my own decisions as a young adult. I am the youngest so that is probably why they are so protective over me and I love them with all my heart; I just want them to understand. Spike X, I would have spaced my paragraphs I just wasn't sure how many characters I had left for all of that lol. Sorry for my paragraphs not being punctuated in the right format. However, I find that less concerning then my question I have asked, but thank you everyone who have replied. I will take all answers into consideration.

something fishy · Accepted Answer

i think your parents have never stopped parenting and so it just gets more difficult

i think you need to change a few patterns...why can't you go to college somewhere else and live somewhere else

why can't you work to get away...

i think you need to do things around the house and with your school work so they never have to remind you or tell you what to do...what ever your jobs and chores....do it...never be told...

have grades made and work in class done

be ahead of your game

this will take time but prove to your parents you are responsible

why can't you study at the library

why can't you go to the mall for the day....eat lunch with friends

i think you need to be respectful and gentally remindthem you are getting older..you are responsible and althoug the unveriserty of your dreams maynot be possible you need to work for what you and your parents can afford...apply for scholarships.

i think it is difficult for parents to let go i think you need other interests that get you out of the house...and i think you need to be on top of your game with things that you need to do...

after you stay on task and get a report card and keep your room clean as well as work and maybe do the softball team all this gets you out of the house and creates another interest...

relax good luck

Taylor · Answer

I think it's time you sit them down and have a talk with them. You answered this to my question and it works in your situation. Be calm, relaxed and respectful. Tell them that you are growing up and in college. They raised you right, they know who you are and what you are capable. You sound like a good girl with a strong head on her shoulders. Thank them for the years they spent nurturing you and loving you and while they will never stop loving you, tell them it's time for this baby bird to fly the next. It is always hard for parents to let their child go and I'm assuming you're an only child so it may be even harder. If they don't listen to this, maybe it's time to cut them loose. It may be hard and sound harsh, but if you're going to be eighteen and an adult, then you take the first step to break free. Once you turn eighteen, get a job. Don't cut them out completely but just go on with your life. It's your life, you're going to be an adult. It's good to see their protectiveness did not stunt your need for freedom. I have seen kids that were smothered their whole lives and stayed that way. Best of luck.

Spike X · Answer

How the hell are you on the honour roll when you don't even know how to use paragraphs? Sorry, there's no way in hell I'm wading through that huge wall of text.

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