How can I get over being so sad about the things I have missed out on....?

Husbands don't understand this kind of stuff. Actually, they don't really do baby showers in Europe anyway, so even if you had friends they probably would throw one for you. Your best bet is to throw yourself a shower and invite everyone you know, even if they are pregnant too. Who knows, you might start a new trend over there.

I'm so sorry. That must be very difficult. Can you call your friends who have moved away? Or could you call your family members? What about your husband's family, would they be happy and excited to talk about the baby?

You might also consider going to a nursing home to volunteer to help elderly people. I'm sure a number of them would like to listen to you and perhaps they could share with you their life experiences of being a mom. I have a good friend who's 80 and she's a great listener. She's like a combination of mom and friend.

You can also plan, in your mind, future parties for yourself, your family and your baby. If you like party planning, go and check out some party ideas for when your baby is born or is a year old. Or you could do some fundraising to raise money for girls who are pregnant and don't have all the items they need: you could find a local home for pregnant girls and see what they need. Then you could ask the pregnant women you see if they have extra items to donate. I think that you'll find that by giving to others you help yourself.

One other thing: try to get some exercise. That's always a mood brightener.

Of course, if your sadness goes on for more than two weeks or you feel overwhelmed by it, see your doctor.

You could have a shower with your husband. I think you should probably start thinking of the things you do have instead of what you want or do not have. You will always come second once the child is born. Good luck!