Are the "wedding vows" that are taken by couples today out dated?

"NO!,, Absolutely NOT!!" ... (Oh, I see you got your TC badge back.Congrats, or Condolences as the case may be.) .... Anyway,, The vows taken at weddings are meant to be 'Traditional', .. My Wife & myself were married / handfasted according to very ancient traditions, (all mixed& written into a beautiful ceremony by me.) ..................... ( I suppose if you were going to update wedding ceremonies to today's standards, you could say something about "smokers", & talk about 2 'F.ag.'s' or something? ) ....... IF Anything,,, I would be making the Vows even more traditional, & go back to a time when "divorce" was not even an option. ..... "Marriage is Forever." .. If you don't like that,, don't get married. .. "Simple." ... EDIT,,,, Oh,, & the word "Obey", Should definately Remain in the wedding vows for the Bride to say. ,, I say this, because "traditionally",, the Man is the 'Head of the Household' & it was always his place to be able to have the final say on any matter. ... "Obey", has Never meant that a woman is to obey her husband, just as a slave is to obey it's owner.... (unless of course, you are into that sort of thing.) ............ If any of these old traditional ways bother you at all,,,, then "What are you doing being a part of that particular religion?" ........... Nobody said that Marriage is Easy, ,,, it takes work. .. a Lifetime of work from both the Man & the Woman! (Note, I deliberately did NOT say "couple", which could be taken to mean 2 men or 2 women.)

Answer 1: The only thing I really don't like about the current wedding vows is the word "obey". I don't think that either the husband or the wife should be expected to obey the other. This is why I had that word replaced with "cherish" in both of my weddings. Other than that, I don't see anything wrong with pledging undying love, respect, and faithfulness to another person.

Answer 2: Actually, getting a divorce isn't difficult at all when there aren't children involved...and you don't necessarily have to go through a lawyer. In fact, my second divorce was handled almost entirely ONLINE. I filled out the divorce petition and submitted it to the court online. Then the court had my ex served with the papers and he filed his response. After that, it was just a matter of my showing up in court so that the judge could finalize the divorce. (And the website I used even had a script for it that I could download free!) There were no lawyers involved. But, of course, this can only be done when the marriage has produced no children and the division of marital assets is agreed upon. Also, the court fees aren't cheap (Depending on your state, they can be several hundred dollars).

I can't remember the url for the website, but you can search for it.

Maybe sometimes, it's not like everyone takes the same vows. We wrote our vows, they were classic and modern, there wasn't a vow in there that isn't realistic.

Divorce is not a simple process, whether there are children or not. You are breaking what was supposed to be a contract for life, and that can require an attorney to work through. Few people have the experience and knowledge to represent themselves in these cases.

depends on each state....in NY I had to jump thru hoops, lay out a lot of money and wait almost 2 years...that was about 6 years ago...have no idea if it's better since no fault became law there...and we had settled all matters between ourselves too (CS, custody, division of marital property)....

All my husband had to do ( 30 years ago) is meet with a notary republic and each sign a document,,,,they had no kids, no marital property to speak of and btw, this was GA.....at that time in NY only proven infidelity or gross deception of marriageability got you a divorce......

Look at the 'basic' marriage vow.....now what is outdated about it? promising to stick with each other thru thick and thin....and to be faithful (not cheat) to each other....and put your spouse above all others...even your parents/siblings as you SHOULD. If any of those vows are outdated then Hon, you don't HAVE a marriage-I don't know what you would call it.

or does this suit you better "We vow to have a big fat @zz debt ridden expensive party just to impress others and pander to our self centeredness, do whatever the H@ll we want after wards and if it doesn't work out, we can hit the road in different directions"-how does THAT work for ya!

Attorney's won't stand for laws being changed for it to be made into a simple procedure, because their income is based off it being a long, drawn out process that is not at all simple.

The vows aren't at all outdated. What's changed is the many couples taking them that don't understand what they mean.

And on the other question, in many states this is possible. They meet once with a mediator, sign off, the docs go to court...and it's done.