Married men, did you ever fall for another woman? How did you deal with it?

My ex is a serial cheat, acted on it and the fool thought I'd never find out, every 2 years or so he meets his 'soulmate' LOL, some men will act on it and some wont.

Fruit Shortie, you sound like an idiot if he followed his heart he would have never cheated on his wife with a homewrecker such as yourself, he was thinking with his penis that's how you got involved and that is also why you are now alone. If a man is married you should do the honorable thing and stay away from him because he is already spoken for. Your the "other" women he goes to you for sex that is it then he goes home to his wife and his family while you are left alone. smh you should be ashamed of yourself for giving this advice to someone. You destroy marriages with your stupidity and you have what is coming to your homewrecking a**.

Anyways back to this question. I'm sure some men have fallen for other women before but what seperates a man from a boy is he can fight temptation. If he feels like he isn't in love with his wife anymore the honorable thing to do is for him to get a divorce not cheat on her that doesn't solve anything and it will just make your life hectic because you will have to juggle the two lives your living. Is it just me or has anyone else noticed when men have affairs they always end up going back to their wives? It's because all they went out of their marriage for was sex so they find the easiest and trashiest women they can find that is so gullible that he can talk her into anything. I suggest you be honest with your wife or husband and break things off before you go out looking for a good time, because karma is a b*tch and eventually it will come back.

Edited: You sound a little foolish to me because when a man go outside his marriage an affair is exactly what he is after LOL if he is cheating on his wife it is an affair. Look if you can't take anymore of your wife then leave her stop trying to justify this action because in the end who does it hurt the most? Your wife and kids will be the ones hurting. Most men are cowards and they would rather have their cake and eat it to then just to admit they messed up and the wife always finds out because most of the time when a man is having an affair well anyone for that matter they get sloppy and fu*k up.

& men do go for the trashiest women they go for the young and slu**y because they are the easiest to manipulate because all he wants is sex. You really think a grown women someone who has her own career and a stable living will have an affair with a married man? No they won't because that is to messy for them. But you find the young women who parade themselves around like a piece of meat falling for the married men because they are insecure and the men are able to talk them into anything. It is also very rare when a man has an affair and gets caught that he leaves his wife unless she leaves him because he wants to keep that stability in his life plus if word got out that he had an affair and he ended up with her all respect for him would go out the window because society looks down upon this action. I don't agree that they marry the trash I believe what they find outside their marriage is trash because let's face it a married man is off the market who in their right mind would want to be the "other women" Well I'll tell you who the young insecure trashy females that are looking for an older man to spoil them.There is no justification for this action no matter how you try to spin it if you go outside your marriage your pathetic and a sorry excuse for a person so man up and grow some balls and either try to make your relationship work or end it to save the heartbreak and embarrassment. Sorry it took me a minute to respond I forgot about this LOL

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Married men, did you ever fall for another woman? How did you deal with it?

It is so easy to have an attraction now and then for another person. Did you ever have a really strong connection with another woman? What did you do? Did you supress the feelings? Act on them and have an affair? Act on them and end up leaving your wife? Get kicked out by your wife?

Just wondering...

If you truly love your spouse, you'll not cheat. If your tempted, look the other way, would you want your spouse doing that to you? Affairs only cause pain and heartache for all involved. If the marriage survives, it will never be the same. Mine did that to me and our marriage was a happy one, or so I thought. No matter how good a wife I was, he just liked the "new" attention from a flirt and I won't use the other word I'd like to call her. He could have been strong, resisted her flirting and not acted on his feelings. We are still together, but things will never be the same. Men do look and so do women, but the adult ones leave it at that.

I'm a married woman. We're human, too and have eyes and hearts. I think everyone crosses paths and connects and appreciates others at some point in time. The important thing is: to recognize it, not dwell (Fantasize) on it...and to neutralize it however it must be neutralized. Even if it means getting a new job.

Honesty is essential in any relationship. I think the BEST thing (for any singles out there) is to find a partner with whom you can be completely honest. One who won't be threatened when you say, "So, this hot woman stopped by the office today...she looked pretty good but can never hold a candle to you."

I hope you married for love. If you married for actual love...and have a tenderness for your wife...that should be able to neutralize and override ANY temporary draw...just realize that ANYONE who tries to hint at you breaking your vows? Not a good person. Anyone who's looks make you think about breaking those vows...they need to be considered "strictly business" (And not the risky kind) if you HAVE to deal with them and should be avoided if not.

I mean even a job change is worth keeping a family together.

Good luck navigating this interesting world. Train your eye to be single to the God under who your vows were made and your heart loyal to your spouse.

Why complicate your life with an affair?

(If your wife is not as physical as you need...talk this out with her. Ask what she needs in order to have more energy at the end of the day. ;) I personally like to keep my husband thinking about MEEEE. =) Soooo, as a wife, that's how I counter the temptations that might wiggle through his day. I always give him something to remember...

Marriage is structurally flawed. Humans do not naturally pair one on one. Men always want more women and women often want richer smarter males.

As men grow older, they often become richer and more attractive. Their wife keeps declining in value. So it's normal then that men then seek other younger women. There is nothing abnormal about it.

What's abnormal is marriage itself. That's why most people won't even bother doing it anymore.

I have been the other woman.

People judge me but they will never understand how long I fought my feelings and how long he did too.

When you get married you think you will be happy forever and its great if you do but sometimes you just meet someone who is your other half/soul mate. It just happens.

Now whilst I dont regret my affair in terms of the fantastic bond and passion and connection we shared I do regret it for the hurt it caused us both. We both loved each other so much but knew from the start it could never be a proper relationship.

When we ended it was so hard for both of us - I lost a part of me and he still to this day remains my deepest love. No one will ever compare to that and its cruel to think I will marry someone who wont ever match up to that and its also horrible to think I met my soul mate and can never be with him.

Its up to you - if you want to experience what I did in terms of love and passion then go for it cos I dont regret the way I felt or still feel for him but the pain is beyond belief when it all breaks down.

Are you a good liar? Your wife will probably find out if you arent careful....weigh it up first. Only act upon it if you know you will be able to break it off and if you know that your wife wont find out.

Its dangerous territory though - I dont care if people think Im a bad person for basically condoning an affair but we are all sinners and no one can judge if they havent been through it!

Follow your heart and not your penis.

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YOUR QUESTION SEEN TO ME AS QUESTION WITH MANY OTHER ONES WITHIN BUT TO PUT IT SIMPLY IN MY CASE YES I DID IT SEVERAL TIMES AND IN 3 TIMES I WAS IN A VERY ROMANTIC INVOLVEMENT BUT AND THERE IS A BIG BUT I WAS GROWING UP IN A SOCIETY THAT SAID "WHAT EVER THE MAN DO OUTSIDE THE HOUSE SHOULD NEVER, NEVER COME INSIDE THE HOUSE" AND YOUR WIFE AND CHILDREN ARE ALWAYS FIRST.

WHEN I DID IT WAS WITH THAT RULE IN MY HEAD AND I ADD ANOTHER RULE THAT I PASS TO MY SONS. IF YOUR WIFE IS SUSPECTING ANY THING DROP WHAT EVER YOU ARE DOING LIKE A HOT PLATE IN YOUR BARE HANDS.

NOW YOU SAID I have to say that I do not agree that when married men go outside their marriage looking for affairs, AND YOU ARE MISTAKEN I NEVER WENT LOOKING FOR ANYTHING NOR I EVER INVITED TO A MOTEL ANY WOMEN, THEY STARTED AND I FOLLOW THEIR GAME.

AND some men stay in marriages because they are too cowardly to leave.I DISAGREE BECAUSE I STAY IN BECAUSE I LOVE HER MORE THAT I LOVE ANY OTHER WOMEN AND SECOND BECAUSE I WILL NOT!! MAKE THE FOUNDATIONS OF A NEW LIFE OVER THE UNHAPPINESS OF MY CHILDREN AND HER AND STAY WITH HER UNTIL SHE BECAME SICK AND DURING THAT TIME WHAT EVER I DID I PAY BACK TAKING CARE OF HER UNTIL HIS FINAL DAY AND AFTER 20 YEARS OF MARRIAGE.

DURING MY ADVENTURES I KEPT ANOTHER GOLDEN RULE 'NEVER BRAKE MY ROUTINE THE SAME WAY ALL THE TIME' BECAUSE WOMEN ARE SMARTER THAT MEN AND LIKE THE DOGS HAVE A FINE SMELL FOR ABNORMALITIES

NOW IN REFERENCE TO; "often their wife is already cheating on them, THAT IT IS TRUE BUT NO ALWAYS AS THE WIFE IS LACKING THE MOMENTS I MAY HAVE GIVEN TOO THE TEMPORARY OTHER ONE BUT AND BUT AGAIN I DID MAKE SURE THAT WHAT HAPPEN IN THE STREET STAY THERE AND WHEN I CAME HOME MY WIFE WAS BY BEST LOVER, AND THE OTHER ONE I DID NOT COMPARE ANY ONE AS I WILL BE MAKING A SERIOUS MISTAKE.

AND LAST BUT NO THE LEAST IF MY FEELING FOR THE OTHER WOMAN WAS REACHING ABOVE MY WAST BAND WAS TIME TO CUT THAT AFFAIR AS I DID 3 TIMES, AND NEVER CALL AND FORGET THEIR NAMES UNTIL TODAY.

AN AFFAIR IS LIKE THE WIND THAT REFRESH THE MOMENT BUT IT KEEP GOING AWAY AND THE WIFE IT IS LIKE THE BAMBOO THREE. FLEXIBLE BUT STRONG

I AM SURE MANY WOMEN OUT THERE WILL DISAGREE BUT MORAL AND RELIGION HERE IT IS NOT THE ISSUE, IT IS FEELING AND WEAKNESS AND GETTING UP AND TRYING TO BE LOYAL TO THE ONLY ONE THAT WAS MY BEST LOVER, THE ONE I WROTE SOME POEMS AND MAYBE SHE DID SUSPECT BUT, BUT PUT ASIDE MY ERRORS AND FOR THAT I LOVE HER MORE.

THERE IS ALL KIND OF LIVING ENTITIES AS MY GRANDMOTHER SAID AND ONE CAN NOT GENERALIZED THEM.

BEST WISHES FOR ALL OF YOU OUT THERE AND THANKS FOR YOUR QUESTION

when i thought i was in love , and thought id never look at another woman , i met a beautiful , woman with an arabic name , we go closer and closer and was talking on the fone every night , we never got it on , but my woman had her suspicions anyway , but my woman was already playing her game with her other men anyway ..

i feel guilty and ashamed for acting upon my feelings , because until it happened i never beleived it was possible , and never thought i was the type of person to act on it

my woman kicked me out , and left me for other 'MEN'.

left me hertbroke because i loved her so much , and i was always blind to the facts ,

but it just goes to show that we are all animals , and not one of us in this world can be trusted , NOBODY

I have had strong feelings for another woman before. All relationships go through rough times. We can not be the perfect couple every minute of the day. It was during one of those times that a beautiful woman who was also married reached out for me because her marriage was not in a great place either. We acted on our feelings and it was incredible. After a while we realized that it would be crazy to think we would ever be together so we ended it. I have no regrets and either does she. I can not say this would be the case for others in this situation, but it was fun while it lasted.