Is it too late to make it right with the woman you love?

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I am a foolish foolish man! My daughters mother and I have been together for 5 years and I have messed things up each time. All she wanted me to do was to stay!!!!! And what did I do when the tention got to high.... like a FOOL I left! Four times I left and I was foolish to think that I had nothing to do with it, and then the nerve of me to think that I could just expect her to just take me back with open arms... FOOLISHS... but she did, because she REALLY REALLY LOVED ME! So did I and still do... but I messed it up... and its to late! I know that she still has feelings for me, because we all live together. I have plenty of family that I could go live with right now... and SHE knows that and if she didn't have feelings for me then she would have told her Mother and Father to kick me out along time ago! We talk, but its not the same... because she resents me! At times she is sweet but most of the time she is short and punchy and sarcastic. She is currently talking with someone from an online dating site who lives in Australia when we both live in FLORIDA... and its driving me nuts because he is getting her attention (SOMONE SHE NEVER MET BEFORE)... and Im here 10 feet from her and yet nothing! Her sister says that I should start dating to make it seem as though I dont care and it doesnt bother me... but I can't do that... becasue im tired of running and playing games. I was reading our old text's and emails and the main topic that always came up was... "DON'T LEAVE ME... DADDY BETTER NOT BE A RUNNER... YOU PROMISED THAT YOU WOULD NEVER LEAVE BUT YOU HAVE!" I am a FOOL! Its funny how in life things make sense after the damage is done... IM A FOOL! WHAT CAN I DO TO MAKE IT RIGHT? IS IT TO LATE TO MAKE IT RIGHT? WE never cheated on eachother... I was just a FOOL and WALKED.... IM SO ASHAMED AND HURT AT MYSELF! SOMEONE.... PLEASE UNDERSTAND MY PAIN!

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Dude, stop being a drama queen. Things in life are more simple than you make them and if you keep trying to TELL her how you feel its just going to hit a wall. Try doing things instead. Do them, and expect NOTHING in return, not even acknoledgment. Buy her flowers and leave them for her before she wakes up with a short love note, not some long whiney letter explaining how much you've F'd up and regret it. You've told her that many times I'm assuming and now they are just empty words. However, if you show her by action that you are serious then maybe she will take it to heart. If there are things that she has been telling you she wants you to do, do them. Don't point out that you've done them, just do them. She probably won't acknowledge it, but she will notice. Keep doing these things, and not getting angry if she doesn't bring it up, and maybe you will have a chance. Also, stop hating yourself, we all do stupid crap, instead of focusing on that, focus on making yourself a better person.

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I'm not going to beat you up over something you already know was wrong...you are in enough pain already.  I am going to suggest that the two of you get into counseling fast.  If she wont go, then just you go. It will show her how serious you are about changing.  

Do I think it's too late?  No...I don't.  You still have time and splitting up is terrible, especially because you've got kids together.  Believe me, I know, I am in the middle of a horrific divorce and am barely able to function.  In fact, it is so bad that both me and my kids have been hospitalized due to severe depression.  We are on a ton of meds, and our house is in foreclosure.  

So fight for this woman, and fight for your kids.  If you want to talk more about this, please feel free to contact me.  I will offer all the support and help I can possibly give.  Don't let what happened to me, happen to you-Sandy

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This is why you never throw away ~opportunities. -.-
Well, since she's not actually with the guy, it's not too late. Just tell her how you feel, and show her that you really do love her. Tell her you won't be a "fool" and won't leave anymore.

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Show her u care by going to to counseling and be responsible... Stop being selfish there are babies involve here

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